Saturday, July 31, 2010

Do both the bride and groom have to be confirmed to get married in a catholic church?

My fiance and I are getting married Oct 10 2009 but he was confirmed and I am not. Do I need to get confirmed to be married in catholic church?Do both the bride and groom have to be confirmed to get married in a catholic church?
The first question would be are you Catholic? If you are not, then you do not have to worry about being confirmed. If you are, then is there a reason you are not confirmed?





At least one of the couple, bride or groom, must be Catholic to be married in the Catholic church. If one or the other is not, there are some parts of the Mass and of the rites they are not allowed to participate in. For the most part, the one who is not Catholic must learn about the Catholic faith, and a full Mass is not celebrated. Each church and diocese are, unfortunately, different on this issue, and some are more stringent than others.





Confirmation is one of the sacraments of the church, just like Marriage is considered a sacrament. For lay people, Marriage is the highest sacrament, much like Holy Orders for a priest. Typically, the Church wants you to receive all the sacraments as a progression of your faith.





If you are Catholic, discuss this with your priest and find out about classes needed. It's not a very involved process to be confirmed. Since your wedding isn't until next year, you have plenty of time.





Good luck.Do both the bride and groom have to be confirmed to get married in a catholic church?
It depends on the diocese and priest. It is something only your church can answer. At mine, both have to be confirmed if you want a full mass with eucharist during your wedding, but as long as both bride and groom have been baptised (only one has to be catholic and confirmed), then the marriage rite will be performed but without eucharist.





Some churches are more strict than others. Some priests are more strict than others. I am sorry I can't give you a straight answer, but it all depends on your specific catholic church and priest. We have two priests at my church, and while one is very ';with current times';, the other is very conservative and very strict.
Technically no, however some parishes do require it. Talk to the priest and find out. Unless you're RC, you will likely have to do one extra class in your marriage prep course. If you're RC, just not confirmed then there shouldn't be any hitches, unless, of course, it's one of the churches/dioceses where they insist that you're both confirmed.





If it's the church just, not the diocese, you might be able to go to your diocese's office and find out a priest who would be willing to marry you anyhow, but it's unlikely, because most priests aren't going to perform a marriage for a couple from outside the parish.
As pointed out, there are some variations.





Were you baptised Catholic? If so, then your situation may be like mine.





My hubby was raised Catholic, was baptised, confirmed, etc.





I was only Baptised Catholic but never raised Catholic, nor did I attend Catholic Mass or know ANYTHING about the Catholic faith.





Because I had not denounced the Catholic Church and was planning to go through RCIA later that year, we were able to have a FULL Mass with all the ';trimmings';. :-)





The Pastor also did Confessions after the rehearsal so since I did that, I was able to have my first Communion at my wedding!





The only thing I was missing was confirmation.





How's that for backwards???





So really you never know what the Pastor will do until you talk to him. They understand the ';rules'; better than any of us and they know what adaptations are acceptable.





Typically, older Pastors are less flexible than younger ones.
Nope.


My Mom is Catholic and Dad is not and they were married in a Catholic Church after the annulment of Dad's 1st marriage went through.





Some churches will require extra classes or counseling, so I'd check in with them soon so you can get the process started so you can be married on your chosen date.
Nope. As long as one of you are catholic it's fine. I am catholic but my FH isn't. I had to just tell them when/where I was baptised and get that certificate but my FH doesn't have to do anything. As with any couple getting married in the church, we have to do the pre cana. The only difference is that my FH has to ';agree'; to raise our kids catholic.
No. My mom is Catholic but my dad isn't and they got married in a Catholic church. My dad had to go to some Catholic classes before they got married, but that was it. Maybe there are some churches that won't allow it, but I've never heard of any. Your fiance should just ask someone at his church to find out.
No, you do not need to be confirmed. However, many parishes will not allow weddings in their church unless you went through Pre-Cana, where I should think this would have been discussed. Better get on the phone with your priest.
No, but I know there is an extended process that you'd have go through in order for them to marry you. I would check with the church you plan to marry in.
Not confirmed but they other partner will be asked to take a class or two to understand the faith and they will have to agree to raise any children as catholic


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no - you don't even have to be catholic - though most priests require you to agree to bring up any children as catholic
The 1st two answers are correct as far as i am aware.
No. You need to be a baptized Christian is all.
everyone who is telling you no is wrong.. both bride and groom DO have to be catholic, and they both must have been baptized and made their first communion, and confirmation. i am 100% sure of this. i am catholic, went to catholic school, and just recently got married in a catholic church. we had to show the priest documents from the churches we made our communion and confirmation in to prove that we had done it.


if one or both of you are not confirmed, it's easy, just talk to the priest and he will have you guys take a few classes to make your confirmation before the wedding.

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