Obviously I mean someone other than your husband. Which do you tend to find to be hotter, married guys, single guys, or is there no difference?
Please be honest. Crushes are just crushes and nothing to hide or be ashamed of, even if you're married.Married women, when you have a harmless crush, is it more likely to be on a single or married man?
I have noticed it's married men. I think because the women can relate they are married the women is married. If something were to happen they wouldn't really have to worry about eachother being obsessed or anything. And you want what you can't have.Married women, when you have a harmless crush, is it more likely to be on a single or married man?
I've had crushes on other guys. They've all been single. Never went anywhere. Harmless. Even if he told me he had a crush on me. I'd say that's nice. I love my husband. He trusts me and I trust him. My husband and I have even talked about it in the past. He has had crushes as well. I think it is healthy to communicate and have trust.
I do not believe that crushes are harmless. Sorry.
Anytime you are thinking about a man other than your husband, it is wrong and you have to be careful. A lot of affairs start this way.
I guess I am old fashioned but i have also been there and I know how NOT harmless they can be.
NO DIFFERENCE
RIGHT NOTW ITS A MARRIED MAN..I WOULD NEVER DO ANYTHING...BUT I DO LIKE TO SNEAK A OCCASIONAL GLANCE
I SEE HIM 3-4 TIMES A YEAR AT CHURCH FUNCTIONS/SPORTS GAMES
honestly i wouldn't know if they are married or single, because i never take it any further than just catching a quick glance. I wouldn't even call it a crush.... I only have eyes for my handsome husband!
doesn't matter, if he's cute he's cute!
married man and his name starts with M
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Is forming an emotional bond with someone else while married cheating?
What do you think? Made me feel guilty.Is forming an emotional bond with someone else while married cheating?
It is cheating, it is just as bad if not worse then having a sexual relationship with someone else. An emotional bond is another far more deeper form of intimacy that should be cherished and shared only with your spouse. If you turned the situation around on yourself, how would you feel about it? I mean really put yourself in the other persons shoes and think about it.Is forming an emotional bond with someone else while married cheating?
i've been into this situation before and i really regretted it. so, it's better for you to stop immediately before u start losing everything like i am right now. u will never know as it hasn't happen to you yet. my advice, stop any bond with the opposite sex n sit down n have a talk wit yr spouse
SERIOUSLY. Emotional affairs can be MORE damaging than physical ones. PLEASE end it now if it's still going on. I wrecked a five-year relationship with someone I truly cared about and had a son with just because I thought it was innocent until it was too late.
My husband started an ';emotional affair'; with my best friend almost 4 years ago. When I repeaditly told him to stop, he would not...to make a long story short, we have been divorced for 2 years and he is now married to my EX- best friend.
I am now in an almost two year relationship and love my boyfriend very much, but am starting to have an ';emotional affair'; with my newly divorced ex-boyfriend (who I don't think I ever stopped loving). I know I am not married, but am I any better than my exes?
You can't help who you find an emotional bond with. It is just there. If you are unhappy with your marriage talk about it with your spouse and tell them about this other person. Let them know that you WANT to work on your marriage. If you feel that your unhappy with your spouse and you feel that you CANNOT change your relationship for the better then speak with him/her and tell her what you are feeling. If you are considering divorce then let them know. Now, not telling someone about his other person would be considered cheating and inconsiderate. Do what you feel would be in the best interest of you AND your spouse. Good Luck!
It all depends on your definition of an ';Emotional bond';.
If you want to sleep with your other other or get more intimate, then it's a good idea to back off.
-OR-
If you're maintaining a friendly distance with a reasonable minimum of romance, even then you're still in the clear.
I have a similar version of this in my love life. The ONLY difference is that I'm not married. So I know a thing or two about this.
you mean with somebody of different gender right,WHY do you feel the need to BOND with this third person,seems to me you cant with hubby.When you are sure you didnt do anything wrong then why feel guilty or do you WANT it to take it further then you should.Bottomline is this person worth it to possible ruin your marriage
For someone to say it's worse than sex is dumb. sometimes you can't help the way you feel. it becomes a problem when you tempt yourself and act on these emotions. everyone gets tempted, but if you prevail then you should be proud of yourself and for you simply feeling gulity (pending that you hadn't acted on these emotions) then you should give yourself a pat on the back.
Have feelings for another while you're currently married is fine. However, acting on those feelings is not. Perhaps you should question your marriage. Are you seeking out emotional bonds with other males because you are unhappy with your husband?
Absolutely it is. If you can't do it, say it and share your feelings with your spouse about it, it's cheating.
Consider how you would feel if you found out your spouse had an emotional bond with someone else. Would that be considered cheating in your heart?
Yes it is cheating, it's called emotional cheating. Believe me if the other two people in this relationship found out they'd be hurt and angry. You need to find someone else to talk to end the relationship.
It is called an emotional affair. Most affairs start out this way. Technically, you are not cheating, just working your way up to it.
if its of the opposite sex or same for that fact yes. when your married you can enjoy friends that's all it can be or it's cheating
The advice I have to give u on this is: Watch your thoughts, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become your character.
well lust is cheating if you see this person as you would your wife then that is cheating lusting in the heart. so yes you are a cheater.
Of course it is. Even worse than casual sex.
It sure is!
no.
but if you have had sex or you guys are going to have sex...then yes.
It is cheating, it is just as bad if not worse then having a sexual relationship with someone else. An emotional bond is another far more deeper form of intimacy that should be cherished and shared only with your spouse. If you turned the situation around on yourself, how would you feel about it? I mean really put yourself in the other persons shoes and think about it.Is forming an emotional bond with someone else while married cheating?
i've been into this situation before and i really regretted it. so, it's better for you to stop immediately before u start losing everything like i am right now. u will never know as it hasn't happen to you yet. my advice, stop any bond with the opposite sex n sit down n have a talk wit yr spouse
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SERIOUSLY. Emotional affairs can be MORE damaging than physical ones. PLEASE end it now if it's still going on. I wrecked a five-year relationship with someone I truly cared about and had a son with just because I thought it was innocent until it was too late.
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My husband started an ';emotional affair'; with my best friend almost 4 years ago. When I repeaditly told him to stop, he would not...to make a long story short, we have been divorced for 2 years and he is now married to my EX- best friend.
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I am now in an almost two year relationship and love my boyfriend very much, but am starting to have an ';emotional affair'; with my newly divorced ex-boyfriend (who I don't think I ever stopped loving). I know I am not married, but am I any better than my exes?
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You can't help who you find an emotional bond with. It is just there. If you are unhappy with your marriage talk about it with your spouse and tell them about this other person. Let them know that you WANT to work on your marriage. If you feel that your unhappy with your spouse and you feel that you CANNOT change your relationship for the better then speak with him/her and tell her what you are feeling. If you are considering divorce then let them know. Now, not telling someone about his other person would be considered cheating and inconsiderate. Do what you feel would be in the best interest of you AND your spouse. Good Luck!
It all depends on your definition of an ';Emotional bond';.
If you want to sleep with your other other or get more intimate, then it's a good idea to back off.
-OR-
If you're maintaining a friendly distance with a reasonable minimum of romance, even then you're still in the clear.
I have a similar version of this in my love life. The ONLY difference is that I'm not married. So I know a thing or two about this.
you mean with somebody of different gender right,WHY do you feel the need to BOND with this third person,seems to me you cant with hubby.When you are sure you didnt do anything wrong then why feel guilty or do you WANT it to take it further then you should.Bottomline is this person worth it to possible ruin your marriage
For someone to say it's worse than sex is dumb. sometimes you can't help the way you feel. it becomes a problem when you tempt yourself and act on these emotions. everyone gets tempted, but if you prevail then you should be proud of yourself and for you simply feeling gulity (pending that you hadn't acted on these emotions) then you should give yourself a pat on the back.
Have feelings for another while you're currently married is fine. However, acting on those feelings is not. Perhaps you should question your marriage. Are you seeking out emotional bonds with other males because you are unhappy with your husband?
Absolutely it is. If you can't do it, say it and share your feelings with your spouse about it, it's cheating.
Consider how you would feel if you found out your spouse had an emotional bond with someone else. Would that be considered cheating in your heart?
Yes it is cheating, it's called emotional cheating. Believe me if the other two people in this relationship found out they'd be hurt and angry. You need to find someone else to talk to end the relationship.
It is called an emotional affair. Most affairs start out this way. Technically, you are not cheating, just working your way up to it.
if its of the opposite sex or same for that fact yes. when your married you can enjoy friends that's all it can be or it's cheating
The advice I have to give u on this is: Watch your thoughts, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become your character.
well lust is cheating if you see this person as you would your wife then that is cheating lusting in the heart. so yes you are a cheater.
Of course it is. Even worse than casual sex.
It sure is!
no.
but if you have had sex or you guys are going to have sex...then yes.
Will getting married in December cause me to lose my tax return if my fiance makes a lot?
My fiance makes 60K+ a year. Will that cause me to lose my tax return, filing separately OR together?Will getting married in December cause me to lose my tax return if my fiance makes a lot?
Yes he will!
Also if he has bad credit it will go on you or vice versa!
File separately!Will getting married in December cause me to lose my tax return if my fiance makes a lot?
Yes, you will lose it unless you file seperately. What matters most is the date you are married. If possible, get married in Jan. and save yourself the trouble. And, if you have kids, getting married will have a penalty. You will lose EIC regardless of how you file, seperately or together, and if you claim head of household your withholding for that will go down as well.
If your fiance makes considerably more money than you she is taxed at a higher marginal rate on the last dollar. By filing a joint return, you will dilute her high tax income with your low tax income resulting in a lower overall tax bill for you as a couple. Look at the tax liability and ignore the refund. Refunds are just what you overpaid.
If you have children and your income is $35K or less, your refund may be less if you marry. However, your fiance may benefit from a joint return, especially if you have children.
You and he may want to do your returns now to see the tax impact of getting married before the end of the year.
It could, but not necessarily - it depends on circumstances you don't state in your question.
If for example, you have been getting EIC, you won't be eligible any more for that, whether you file separately or a joint return.
And by the way, it's a reFUND, not a reTURN.lips
Yes he will!
Also if he has bad credit it will go on you or vice versa!
File separately!Will getting married in December cause me to lose my tax return if my fiance makes a lot?
Yes, you will lose it unless you file seperately. What matters most is the date you are married. If possible, get married in Jan. and save yourself the trouble. And, if you have kids, getting married will have a penalty. You will lose EIC regardless of how you file, seperately or together, and if you claim head of household your withholding for that will go down as well.
If your fiance makes considerably more money than you she is taxed at a higher marginal rate on the last dollar. By filing a joint return, you will dilute her high tax income with your low tax income resulting in a lower overall tax bill for you as a couple. Look at the tax liability and ignore the refund. Refunds are just what you overpaid.
If you have children and your income is $35K or less, your refund may be less if you marry. However, your fiance may benefit from a joint return, especially if you have children.
You and he may want to do your returns now to see the tax impact of getting married before the end of the year.
It could, but not necessarily - it depends on circumstances you don't state in your question.
If for example, you have been getting EIC, you won't be eligible any more for that, whether you file separately or a joint return.
And by the way, it's a reFUND, not a reTURN.
So if some gays are already married in CA their Marry Certificates will be made invalid?
See it on the bright side we're preventing that God destroys California like Sodom.So if some gays are already married in CA their Marry Certificates will be made invalid?
Most likely...yes.So if some gays are already married in CA their Marry Certificates will be made invalid?
really?
that is the bright side?
does that mean your side will simply shut up about it if youa re satisfied it is done now?
or will you be back for more, taking more and more rights away from minorities by majority vote, counter to every principle of our government, until we are a theocracy for Christians only?
I don't know about the US but here in the UK it is extremely difficult to make laws retrospective. Even the dept. of transport can't do that.
Most likely...yes.So if some gays are already married in CA their Marry Certificates will be made invalid?
really?
that is the bright side?
does that mean your side will simply shut up about it if youa re satisfied it is done now?
or will you be back for more, taking more and more rights away from minorities by majority vote, counter to every principle of our government, until we are a theocracy for Christians only?
I don't know about the US but here in the UK it is extremely difficult to make laws retrospective. Even the dept. of transport can't do that.
Is ring be the best thing a not yet married couple should have? What would be the advantages if you have one?
My boyfriend and I were planning to have a ring on our 1st anniversary. Would it be a good idea? Or any idea please.. would it strengthenn the commitment that we have??Is ring be the best thing a not yet married couple should have? What would be the advantages if you have one?
My boyfriend and I got rings for our anniversary.
Did it strengthen out commitment? No, our commitment still remains the same, but we did it because it was something that we both felt was a good idea.
My mom also really wanted to see it happen haha :)Is ring be the best thing a not yet married couple should have? What would be the advantages if you have one?
Engagement ring ? well it normally follows a proposal so unless there is a specific reason for not getting one for a whole year then you should get it on the proposal or hold off the proposal for the year until the ring is bought.
Hope that makes sense as I am not sure your question made sense to me, sorry..
My boyfriend and I got rings for our anniversary.
Did it strengthen out commitment? No, our commitment still remains the same, but we did it because it was something that we both felt was a good idea.
My mom also really wanted to see it happen haha :)Is ring be the best thing a not yet married couple should have? What would be the advantages if you have one?
Engagement ring ? well it normally follows a proposal so unless there is a specific reason for not getting one for a whole year then you should get it on the proposal or hold off the proposal for the year until the ring is bought.
Hope that makes sense as I am not sure your question made sense to me, sorry..
Why are married women who already have children allowed to be surrogateS?
in some countries this was kind of a law. WHy do you think this law was madE?
Why are married women who already have children allowed to be surrogateS?
1. It proves you can physically/emotionally/mentally handle childbirth.
2. There's a better chance you will be able to actually give the child up at birth, considering a lot of women without birthing experience don't understand the bond it creates.
3. If you are married you will have a spouse to care for you during the pregnancy.
Hope that helps.Why are married women who already have children allowed to be surrogateS?
I dont fully understand your questions. But in some places, like some states in Australia, surrogacy is not actually legal at all.
But also, I remember hearing that it is better for a woman who has already had her children to be a surrogate, because for women who have not already had children, there are risks during the surrogacy which may later mean that the surrogate may not be able to have her own children. SO for that reason they often go for women who have already had children.
These women already have their own children so there's less likelihood they will want to keep the baby. Also, married women are usually more grounded and therefore more responsible as far as taking care of their bodies and the baby.
And I think married mothers who do it, want to help other women experience the joy of motherhood.
experience counts!
Probably it has to do with money.
Why are married women who already have children allowed to be surrogateS?
1. It proves you can physically/emotionally/mentally handle childbirth.
2. There's a better chance you will be able to actually give the child up at birth, considering a lot of women without birthing experience don't understand the bond it creates.
3. If you are married you will have a spouse to care for you during the pregnancy.
Hope that helps.Why are married women who already have children allowed to be surrogateS?
I dont fully understand your questions. But in some places, like some states in Australia, surrogacy is not actually legal at all.
But also, I remember hearing that it is better for a woman who has already had her children to be a surrogate, because for women who have not already had children, there are risks during the surrogacy which may later mean that the surrogate may not be able to have her own children. SO for that reason they often go for women who have already had children.
These women already have their own children so there's less likelihood they will want to keep the baby. Also, married women are usually more grounded and therefore more responsible as far as taking care of their bodies and the baby.
And I think married mothers who do it, want to help other women experience the joy of motherhood.
experience counts!
Probably it has to do with money.
How to immigrate to the UK being American and married to a UK citizen?
I am married to a UK citizen, I am American we do not have enough money for me to immigrate to the UK, But I have healthcare skills, can anyone tell me how I can apply for a job in the UK..or is their another way I can join my husband..We both have jobs, we just don't make enough.How to immigrate to the UK being American and married to a UK citizen?
if your husbands a citizen (by that im assuming he has an actual britsh citzenship and works full time) then i dont see why you shouldn't be able to immigrate. if you got healthcare skill then the NHS is going to want you. theres a major staff shortage here and ther'e in depserate need for any hospital workers. just dont come here expecting to live of the welfare state. we got enough britsh people doing that already.
if your husbands a citizen (by that im assuming he has an actual britsh citzenship and works full time) then i dont see why you shouldn't be able to immigrate. if you got healthcare skill then the NHS is going to want you. theres a major staff shortage here and ther'e in depserate need for any hospital workers. just dont come here expecting to live of the welfare state. we got enough britsh people doing that already.
Why did my dad start checking the oil and water in my moms car before they were married and still checks it?
He does that so when he fiddles with the brakes it wont look suspicious!Why did my dad start checking the oil and water in my moms car before they were married and still checks it?
Because it's the right thing to do.
To keep your mom from getting dirty.
Because he knows how.
Because he was trying to show your mom what he's able to do.
He was raised that this is what a man should do not a woman.
The list of reasons go on and on.
Why not just ask your dad?Why did my dad start checking the oil and water in my moms car before they were married and still checks it?
He started because he wanted to show her how he could take care of her, he still does it because he still wants to take care of her. That and most men deal with car stuff.
I agree with holeemel, you have posted this question several times before. Are you worried that he's trying to sabotage her car or are you just a troll?
Because he wants the car to be in tip top shape?
Didn't you ask this last week too? You must be either bored to death or mentally challenged.
So that the car doesn''t break down.
i like HOLEEMEL answer and I am going to go with mentally challenged
Stop asking the same question.
that's how little baby's are made
(one day you'll understand)
Because it's the right thing to do.
To keep your mom from getting dirty.
Because he knows how.
Because he was trying to show your mom what he's able to do.
He was raised that this is what a man should do not a woman.
The list of reasons go on and on.
Why not just ask your dad?Why did my dad start checking the oil and water in my moms car before they were married and still checks it?
He started because he wanted to show her how he could take care of her, he still does it because he still wants to take care of her. That and most men deal with car stuff.
I agree with holeemel, you have posted this question several times before. Are you worried that he's trying to sabotage her car or are you just a troll?
Because he wants the car to be in tip top shape?
Didn't you ask this last week too? You must be either bored to death or mentally challenged.
So that the car doesn''t break down.
i like HOLEEMEL answer and I am going to go with mentally challenged
Stop asking the same question.
that's how little baby's are made
(one day you'll understand)
Do you all think it is possible to stay married forever and be faithful throughout the entire marriage?
I am just curious to know what people really think, and If any of you are married (happily,) what is your secret?Do you all think it is possible to stay married forever and be faithful throughout the entire marriage?
Of course, but you have to work on the marriage. My grandparents were married for over 75 years (my grandfather died last year) and they were very happy together. They were also completely faithful to each other as they deeply respected their marriage vows. Would that happen today? It is less likely as people are more concerned about themselves than in making sacrifices for another person.Do you all think it is possible to stay married forever and be faithful throughout the entire marriage?
Hi I'm happily married for just over 26 yrs now. The secret, is being open, honest, trustworthy %26amp; having good communication skills. My Nana told me on my Wedding day to 'never let the sun set on an argument' %26amp; ';apologise if you are wrong. Yes we do have arguments %26amp; different ideas about things, but we settle them by negotiation or just accept we have different points of view rather than he's right or I'm right.
A marriage requires teamwork every single day. Tend it like a garden it will flourish, ignore it %26amp; it will wither %26amp; die.
The other thing to know is that just because you're married to someone doesn't mean you are Siamese twins. If he wants to go fishing with his buddies for the w/end he does. If he wants to play sport once or twice a week he does. By the same token if I want to go out for a girls night out (usually dinner %26amp; movies), or go shopping with friends I do.
Your partner can be your significant other %26amp; best friend but everyone needs a little 'me time' occasionally.
Yes, I think it is possible to stay faithful and also very likely if the people involved are honest, open and mature.
The secret to happiness is compassion and good communication (although keeping secrets is no a good thing, good communication does not mean telling your significant other everything either.)
It's possible-many people do it. I think more people get divorced from jumping into a marriage too fast then quickly get divorced seeing that as a quick fix. Don't get me wrong-lots of marriages go so bad that simply for safety the 2 need the divorce. My 1st marriage wasn't the smartest-we thought we were perfect together because everything was ';fun.'; Once the seriousness of being adults, work, marriage, etc. set in-it was too much for my wife and she basically freaked out (long story). After years of working on what I did wrong I learned a good marriage needs a good base of honesty, similar basic beliefs, maturity, communication and a desire to work through things as a team. Take away the mushy stuff...think about how a good business runs-always striving to be it's best while keeping an eye on the future. Every house has to be built on a good foundation-otherwise the rest of it will eventually crumble down no matter how well it's constructed. I know these aren't the most beautiful analogies but they give examples of what I believe to be necessary minimums for a good relationship. Eventually you'll need these things to get the both of you through the challenges life throws at you.
It's absolutely possible and some couples have done it and continue to do it daily. You don't often hear about them (particularly here) since it's more exciting and newsworthy to hear about peoples problems. I've been married for 21 years and find our secret to marriage is mutual respect, love and support for each other.
Hi Maggie, WHY NOT ?
And this Q comes back with a reflection of....................
That's why we shouldn't settle anything less for LOVE.
When you chosen someone that you knew were a lil wrong and
settle for it, you'll bound to creates problems
because you don't really loves them DEEPLY in the first place.
Sometimes as in TOO COMFORTABLE with partners
were not be helpful either.
As s/he can says anything s/he wishes till a point they
might degrades and offended you.
That's why I feel sometimes somethings simply just shouldn't
cross the line.
Not everyone can take the things you think you can.
Well I'm not married or engaged. I'm in love with my boyfriend though, and I see us being the old couple waiting at the doctor's office for the new ';Miracle blue pill'; if you get what I mean.
My grandma and papa (grandpa) are happily married for over 70 years now. I swear, they still go at it like bunnies! They laugh and joke around with each other still, hold hands in public and act like they are newly weds. I aim to be like them when I get married, even throughout the years.
Isn't that the whole idea of why you get married??? I have been unfaithful in previous relationships when I was younger, but I would NEVER in my life imagine doing that to my fiance. I guess you just have to meet the right person for you.
Yes I think it is possible, unfortunately it is not too common. It takes two special people to share the type of love that would last that long with complete faithfulness.
Happily on my 4th marriage. The secret... hold hands all the time, kiss every time you see each other, say I love you many times a day and have them be your best friend.
I'm not married but i believe its possible to be faithful and happily married forever
Uh, yeah it's possible. I mean, isn't that kind of the whole point of marriage?
DO you?lips
Of course, but you have to work on the marriage. My grandparents were married for over 75 years (my grandfather died last year) and they were very happy together. They were also completely faithful to each other as they deeply respected their marriage vows. Would that happen today? It is less likely as people are more concerned about themselves than in making sacrifices for another person.Do you all think it is possible to stay married forever and be faithful throughout the entire marriage?
Hi I'm happily married for just over 26 yrs now. The secret, is being open, honest, trustworthy %26amp; having good communication skills. My Nana told me on my Wedding day to 'never let the sun set on an argument' %26amp; ';apologise if you are wrong. Yes we do have arguments %26amp; different ideas about things, but we settle them by negotiation or just accept we have different points of view rather than he's right or I'm right.
A marriage requires teamwork every single day. Tend it like a garden it will flourish, ignore it %26amp; it will wither %26amp; die.
The other thing to know is that just because you're married to someone doesn't mean you are Siamese twins. If he wants to go fishing with his buddies for the w/end he does. If he wants to play sport once or twice a week he does. By the same token if I want to go out for a girls night out (usually dinner %26amp; movies), or go shopping with friends I do.
Your partner can be your significant other %26amp; best friend but everyone needs a little 'me time' occasionally.
Yes, I think it is possible to stay faithful and also very likely if the people involved are honest, open and mature.
The secret to happiness is compassion and good communication (although keeping secrets is no a good thing, good communication does not mean telling your significant other everything either.)
It's possible-many people do it. I think more people get divorced from jumping into a marriage too fast then quickly get divorced seeing that as a quick fix. Don't get me wrong-lots of marriages go so bad that simply for safety the 2 need the divorce. My 1st marriage wasn't the smartest-we thought we were perfect together because everything was ';fun.'; Once the seriousness of being adults, work, marriage, etc. set in-it was too much for my wife and she basically freaked out (long story). After years of working on what I did wrong I learned a good marriage needs a good base of honesty, similar basic beliefs, maturity, communication and a desire to work through things as a team. Take away the mushy stuff...think about how a good business runs-always striving to be it's best while keeping an eye on the future. Every house has to be built on a good foundation-otherwise the rest of it will eventually crumble down no matter how well it's constructed. I know these aren't the most beautiful analogies but they give examples of what I believe to be necessary minimums for a good relationship. Eventually you'll need these things to get the both of you through the challenges life throws at you.
It's absolutely possible and some couples have done it and continue to do it daily. You don't often hear about them (particularly here) since it's more exciting and newsworthy to hear about peoples problems. I've been married for 21 years and find our secret to marriage is mutual respect, love and support for each other.
Hi Maggie, WHY NOT ?
And this Q comes back with a reflection of....................
That's why we shouldn't settle anything less for LOVE.
When you chosen someone that you knew were a lil wrong and
settle for it, you'll bound to creates problems
because you don't really loves them DEEPLY in the first place.
Sometimes as in TOO COMFORTABLE with partners
were not be helpful either.
As s/he can says anything s/he wishes till a point they
might degrades and offended you.
That's why I feel sometimes somethings simply just shouldn't
cross the line.
Not everyone can take the things you think you can.
Well I'm not married or engaged. I'm in love with my boyfriend though, and I see us being the old couple waiting at the doctor's office for the new ';Miracle blue pill'; if you get what I mean.
My grandma and papa (grandpa) are happily married for over 70 years now. I swear, they still go at it like bunnies! They laugh and joke around with each other still, hold hands in public and act like they are newly weds. I aim to be like them when I get married, even throughout the years.
Isn't that the whole idea of why you get married??? I have been unfaithful in previous relationships when I was younger, but I would NEVER in my life imagine doing that to my fiance. I guess you just have to meet the right person for you.
Yes I think it is possible, unfortunately it is not too common. It takes two special people to share the type of love that would last that long with complete faithfulness.
Happily on my 4th marriage. The secret... hold hands all the time, kiss every time you see each other, say I love you many times a day and have them be your best friend.
I'm not married but i believe its possible to be faithful and happily married forever
Uh, yeah it's possible. I mean, isn't that kind of the whole point of marriage?
DO you?
How many friends did you lose when you got married/got pregnant?
Apparently once you get married your friends start to distance themselves and when you get pregant and begin having children even more seem to disappear. Is this true?
I do not have kids btw I was just wondering.How many friends did you lose when you got married/got pregnant?
There is some truth to that. It depends on the friends. For me, the friends I used to party with left, but the ones that I talked to regularly about important things (i.e. mature friends) stuck around. Although even they were distanced once I got married..... It happens to most people to some degree...
I'm pregnant now, and I have really been surprised at how little interest my friends have taken to the baby. I definitely think this is going to alienate them from me even more....
I do not have kids btw I was just wondering.How many friends did you lose when you got married/got pregnant?
There is some truth to that. It depends on the friends. For me, the friends I used to party with left, but the ones that I talked to regularly about important things (i.e. mature friends) stuck around. Although even they were distanced once I got married..... It happens to most people to some degree...
I'm pregnant now, and I have really been surprised at how little interest my friends have taken to the baby. I definitely think this is going to alienate them from me even more....
Is it okay to get married the day before Easter Sunday?
This wedding will not be at a church, i'm not religious and my fiance is orthodox so his easter is the following week. I'm wondering if anyone will have a real problem with a wedding the day before Easter though!Is it okay to get married the day before Easter Sunday?
I see no problem.
Besides, Easter falls on a different day every year anyhow.Is it okay to get married the day before Easter Sunday?
Well, it's not a terrible thing, but it may not be the most considerate thing to do to your guests, considering that Easter is often a family-oriented holiday.
Will you have a lot of out-of-town guests? What time of day are you planning the wedding?
If most of your guests will be local, then you're probably not causing too much trouble for anyone. If you have lots of out of town guests, you might consider planning it for early enough in the day that people could fly home on Saturday afternoon.
Alternately, is there a way that your family could host a post-wedding/Easter brunch on Sunday? It might also be a good idea to provide your out of town guests with information on what Easter services will be available in your area. If they know that they can include the wedding, as well as their religious services and the family fun, then they're more likely to all come, and have a great time.
FYI, this situation came up for a friend of mine. She and her sister-in-law usually host Easter, but the SIL will be out of town this weekend, for a wedding tomorrow. They had their Easter party last weekend, which goes to show that those who love you will accommodate the schedule!
Hi and congratulations!
I really don't see a problem with it if the majority of those you are inviting are also non-religious.
If some are religious, and will be going to Easter services the next day, then perhaps they will be leaving the reception a littler earlier than the others. But other than that...I don't see as it would be a problem.
If you aren't religious and it isn't taking place in a church, there shouldn't be any problem. Most non-religious officiants will work any day except major holidays. You can look up officiants in your area at http://www.projectwedding.com or on the local boards at http://talk.theknot.com
There's nothing wrong with it at all. A church wedding can't take place then (there's no Mass permitted between the end of the Mass of the Lord's Supper on Holy Thursday and the Easter Vigil) but since it's not a church, it makes no difference.
I wouldn't think it would be a problem. You just have to think about your guest. Most of them might be going out of town for the long weekend. While others can travel to your wedding. Hopefully you are talking about Easter next year. If you are just send out save the date cards.
Depends on the type of people who you are inviting. If your guest list consists of a lot of very devout christians you might want to reconsidering. However for most people that would but just fine.
It's your wedding get married ANY day, Easter Sunday if you want. Those people that want to come to your wedding will be there for you no matter what day it';s on. Best wishes to you and yours.
I don't think it should be a problem with any religion. I don't believe that the Saturday before Easter is a religious holiday for anyone.
The only issue I could find with that (as a non-religous person), is that then I would be hung-over for Easter dinner at Grandma's. lol. If people don't like it, they don't have to come.
of course it wont be a problem why wont it? Just go for it!! Congratulations and have a wonderful wedding!
I don't find a problem with it. Congrats!!
why wouldnt it be ok?
its not the day of easter. its not a holiday
I don't see why that wouldn't be alright. But that is tomorrow. Are you sure your ready to get married TOMORROW?
yes
i dont think so
I see no problem.
Besides, Easter falls on a different day every year anyhow.Is it okay to get married the day before Easter Sunday?
Well, it's not a terrible thing, but it may not be the most considerate thing to do to your guests, considering that Easter is often a family-oriented holiday.
Will you have a lot of out-of-town guests? What time of day are you planning the wedding?
If most of your guests will be local, then you're probably not causing too much trouble for anyone. If you have lots of out of town guests, you might consider planning it for early enough in the day that people could fly home on Saturday afternoon.
Alternately, is there a way that your family could host a post-wedding/Easter brunch on Sunday? It might also be a good idea to provide your out of town guests with information on what Easter services will be available in your area. If they know that they can include the wedding, as well as their religious services and the family fun, then they're more likely to all come, and have a great time.
FYI, this situation came up for a friend of mine. She and her sister-in-law usually host Easter, but the SIL will be out of town this weekend, for a wedding tomorrow. They had their Easter party last weekend, which goes to show that those who love you will accommodate the schedule!
Hi and congratulations!
I really don't see a problem with it if the majority of those you are inviting are also non-religious.
If some are religious, and will be going to Easter services the next day, then perhaps they will be leaving the reception a littler earlier than the others. But other than that...I don't see as it would be a problem.
If you aren't religious and it isn't taking place in a church, there shouldn't be any problem. Most non-religious officiants will work any day except major holidays. You can look up officiants in your area at http://www.projectwedding.com or on the local boards at http://talk.theknot.com
There's nothing wrong with it at all. A church wedding can't take place then (there's no Mass permitted between the end of the Mass of the Lord's Supper on Holy Thursday and the Easter Vigil) but since it's not a church, it makes no difference.
I wouldn't think it would be a problem. You just have to think about your guest. Most of them might be going out of town for the long weekend. While others can travel to your wedding. Hopefully you are talking about Easter next year. If you are just send out save the date cards.
Depends on the type of people who you are inviting. If your guest list consists of a lot of very devout christians you might want to reconsidering. However for most people that would but just fine.
It's your wedding get married ANY day, Easter Sunday if you want. Those people that want to come to your wedding will be there for you no matter what day it';s on. Best wishes to you and yours.
I don't think it should be a problem with any religion. I don't believe that the Saturday before Easter is a religious holiday for anyone.
The only issue I could find with that (as a non-religous person), is that then I would be hung-over for Easter dinner at Grandma's. lol. If people don't like it, they don't have to come.
of course it wont be a problem why wont it? Just go for it!! Congratulations and have a wonderful wedding!
I don't find a problem with it. Congrats!!
why wouldnt it be ok?
its not the day of easter. its not a holiday
I don't see why that wouldn't be alright. But that is tomorrow. Are you sure your ready to get married TOMORROW?
yes
i dont think so
My husband and I are married for 13 years?
Our relationship is struggling ...We have 2 kids together (2 and 7).He does not pay attention to me or the kids.....Most of his time he spend in the basement watching Tv or sitting on the internet.
When I try to talk to him about he gets mad at mad and he tells me that I crazy .
I love him but recently I have concerns regarding our releationship.
I sick and tired that I do everything in the house including mowing the grass,taking out the garbage.Please help.My husband and I are married for 13 years?
He is having a crisis.Has he always been this way.The withdrawing from you and the kids is unsettling. Even though he may not be helping out around the house I think he isn't feeling very needed. Loosing himself by watching T.V. on the computer. He seems depressed. Try to get him to an M.D. and discuss while you're there. Show support. Hate to see relationships to end if isn't necessary
My husband and I are married for 13 years?
Sometimes men do not know that we need help.. they just assume everything is going on fine until we blow up one day.. sit down and talk to him about how tired you r getting running after your 2 kids and taking care of the house as well... assign him certain duties (like cleaning the garbage and mowing the grass) and don't do these things ever.. let him handle them, even if he's not doing it 'on time.' Once he gets the feeling that it's his job and you're not going to do it, he will handle it.. he probably thinks that you're doing fine and do not need any help.. tell him you need help and show him which area you want help in. This usually works..
You tried talking, it is not working ....
So you stop mowing the grass ...
If you pay the bills, stop, put him in charge of paying them.
You need to get out and enjoy yourself, even if it is only for two hours...make him care for the children. I know your thinking he will ignore them, but it is hard to ignore a two year old.
You need to give him list of things to do around the house... and get him to do them.
Then if he starts doing some of them ... reward him, hire a sitter or ask a friend to watch the kids. Take hubby out for dinner, maybe find some place to talk, get to know each other all over again.
Grandmother told me, when it comes to men: The way you start off is the way you end up. Therefore, you have always done for your hubby, his role and yours, in the relationship. Why are you tired of it now? Why are you on the computer telling us, instead of him? What should you do? You know what you have to do, confront him with his lazy ways and you stop doing for him so much. Just do you and the kids for a while, till he appreciates you more. Good luck.
Get his attention by stopping all the things you do for him individually, washing his clothes, fixing his lunch, etc. Cut the power to the T.V. and internet. With those two things out of the picture, you might have better luck having a one on one with him. Dance naked in front of him. If none of these things work. Get counciling for yourself and move forward with your life with or with out him.
try talking to him - if that doesn't work - tell him you want marriage counseling - my husband for years said no way to marriage counseling - then I gave him a choice - either I leave or we do marriage counseling and try to make things better. We've only gone to 3 sessions - but its helping to get my concerns across.
Sounds like he needs a rude awakening. He's become super comfortable. You need to plan a girls day out or a day for yourself and just plan it on a night that you know he'll be in (so he can watch the kids). Then get dressed and on your way out, let him know that you're going out. That'll wake his *** up.
I guess you have to try and get him to get out of watching some much TV. and off the net.
family outings may help. or go away for a weekend. see how that works. stop doing everything and let it be.
good luck.
There is nothing you can do. That's him.
People only change if they want to change themselves. Make a fulfilling life for yourself outside the marriage for yourself and include your children. Good Luck
Reminds me why I divorced my ex husband. He was way too in the comfort zone... no counselling sessions helped either... he was a born selfish bastid.
Good Luck xx
When I try to talk to him about he gets mad at mad and he tells me that I crazy .
I love him but recently I have concerns regarding our releationship.
I sick and tired that I do everything in the house including mowing the grass,taking out the garbage.Please help.My husband and I are married for 13 years?
He is having a crisis.Has he always been this way.The withdrawing from you and the kids is unsettling. Even though he may not be helping out around the house I think he isn't feeling very needed. Loosing himself by watching T.V. on the computer. He seems depressed. Try to get him to an M.D. and discuss while you're there. Show support. Hate to see relationships to end if isn't necessary
My husband and I are married for 13 years?
Sometimes men do not know that we need help.. they just assume everything is going on fine until we blow up one day.. sit down and talk to him about how tired you r getting running after your 2 kids and taking care of the house as well... assign him certain duties (like cleaning the garbage and mowing the grass) and don't do these things ever.. let him handle them, even if he's not doing it 'on time.' Once he gets the feeling that it's his job and you're not going to do it, he will handle it.. he probably thinks that you're doing fine and do not need any help.. tell him you need help and show him which area you want help in. This usually works..
You tried talking, it is not working ....
So you stop mowing the grass ...
If you pay the bills, stop, put him in charge of paying them.
You need to get out and enjoy yourself, even if it is only for two hours...make him care for the children. I know your thinking he will ignore them, but it is hard to ignore a two year old.
You need to give him list of things to do around the house... and get him to do them.
Then if he starts doing some of them ... reward him, hire a sitter or ask a friend to watch the kids. Take hubby out for dinner, maybe find some place to talk, get to know each other all over again.
Grandmother told me, when it comes to men: The way you start off is the way you end up. Therefore, you have always done for your hubby, his role and yours, in the relationship. Why are you tired of it now? Why are you on the computer telling us, instead of him? What should you do? You know what you have to do, confront him with his lazy ways and you stop doing for him so much. Just do you and the kids for a while, till he appreciates you more. Good luck.
Get his attention by stopping all the things you do for him individually, washing his clothes, fixing his lunch, etc. Cut the power to the T.V. and internet. With those two things out of the picture, you might have better luck having a one on one with him. Dance naked in front of him. If none of these things work. Get counciling for yourself and move forward with your life with or with out him.
try talking to him - if that doesn't work - tell him you want marriage counseling - my husband for years said no way to marriage counseling - then I gave him a choice - either I leave or we do marriage counseling and try to make things better. We've only gone to 3 sessions - but its helping to get my concerns across.
Sounds like he needs a rude awakening. He's become super comfortable. You need to plan a girls day out or a day for yourself and just plan it on a night that you know he'll be in (so he can watch the kids). Then get dressed and on your way out, let him know that you're going out. That'll wake his *** up.
I guess you have to try and get him to get out of watching some much TV. and off the net.
family outings may help. or go away for a weekend. see how that works. stop doing everything and let it be.
good luck.
There is nothing you can do. That's him.
People only change if they want to change themselves. Make a fulfilling life for yourself outside the marriage for yourself and include your children. Good Luck
Reminds me why I divorced my ex husband. He was way too in the comfort zone... no counselling sessions helped either... he was a born selfish bastid.
Good Luck xx
Is it better to check married, but withhold at a higher single rate on the W-4?
I recently got married and we are trying to figure out the best way to do our taxes. We were going to claim married and have my husband claim 1, and I would claim 0. We just don't want to have to pay in at the end of the year. So I am wondering if we should claim married, but withhold at the higher single rate and then both claim 0. Will that make a huge difference on how much they take out monthly?Is it better to check married, but withhold at a higher single rate on the W-4?
Have done tax work for 36 years and applaud your way of thinking. The little bite out of each paycheck is a lot easier than a great big bite at tax time. You are both working so use the tables on the reverse of the form W-4, which is for two earner households. Single and zero should put you in refund territory at tax time.Is it better to check married, but withhold at a higher single rate on the W-4?
I am assuming that you plan to file a joint return which normally would be best and that you will use standard deductions. Unless both your salaries are very large, normally the one with the smaller salary should claim O and claim 1 on the large salary. If you really want to be safe go to taxact.com and down load a free tax program. Do a practice tax return with the estimated withholding using those numbers. Keep in mind the first year you will have withholding amounts from when you were single and those should have been larger any way.
It's very difficult to answer without knowing all of your income %26amp; deductions. However, a good rule of thumb is that the higher income earner claim married 2, and the lower income earner withhold 0 at the single rate. Since it is so close to the end of the year, you can't hurt too much at this point %26amp; then can use your income tax return to guage for next year.
To see exactly what will be withheld, here are the official tables that employers use. Find your table--start about page 40 (i.e. married paid weekly/biweekly/monthly).
http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p15.pdf
You can also use the online W-4 calculator at the following:
http://www.irs.gov/individuals/article/0鈥?/a>
Have done tax work for 36 years and applaud your way of thinking. The little bite out of each paycheck is a lot easier than a great big bite at tax time. You are both working so use the tables on the reverse of the form W-4, which is for two earner households. Single and zero should put you in refund territory at tax time.Is it better to check married, but withhold at a higher single rate on the W-4?
I am assuming that you plan to file a joint return which normally would be best and that you will use standard deductions. Unless both your salaries are very large, normally the one with the smaller salary should claim O and claim 1 on the large salary. If you really want to be safe go to taxact.com and down load a free tax program. Do a practice tax return with the estimated withholding using those numbers. Keep in mind the first year you will have withholding amounts from when you were single and those should have been larger any way.
It's very difficult to answer without knowing all of your income %26amp; deductions. However, a good rule of thumb is that the higher income earner claim married 2, and the lower income earner withhold 0 at the single rate. Since it is so close to the end of the year, you can't hurt too much at this point %26amp; then can use your income tax return to guage for next year.
To see exactly what will be withheld, here are the official tables that employers use. Find your table--start about page 40 (i.e. married paid weekly/biweekly/monthly).
http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p15.pdf
You can also use the online W-4 calculator at the following:
http://www.irs.gov/individuals/article/0鈥?/a>
My best friend is getting married in Vegas - bachelorette party ideas?
My best friend has always wanted to get married in Vegas - she's got family there and she's been to the city many many times. I've never been, and since I'm her maid of honor, I'm responsible for some kind of ';last night out'; festivities. There will probably only be 4 of 5 of us girls, but I don't know what to do! STRIPPERS ARE OUT! Her fiance is doing something with his boys that night, and they agreed, no strippers. She's not big into shows or anything and her theory is that Vegas is for drinking and gambling, but I don't want that night to be really lame! Anyone have any ideas?My best friend is getting married in Vegas - bachelorette party ideas?
You can rent a party bus. Also, plan a spa day. The casino spa's out there are to die for. There are clubs at every casino. If you do decide on a show, check out Thunder from Down Under. Its a male review and its worth it should you decide. Its hard to say if she doesnt want to see a show or go see half dressed men.My best friend is getting married in Vegas - bachelorette party ideas?
Ive never been to vegas either, but maybe you guys could go to a spa, and a really nice place out to eat???just a suggestion! %26lt;3 Tell your friend congrats!!
I was in Vegas about 6 months ago. My roommate and I went and spent a dollar in ever casino that we walked through and then took a fun picture at each. That was the best part of our trip, just walking up and down the strip. Most of the good clubs are expensive to get into, so if you do that, pick one. They have a lot of good ones, look at vegas.com, they even have a special section for bachelorette party ideas.
My advice, risk looking funny with comfy shoes if you do decide to walk the strip because your feet will be killing you by the end of the night.
The tram is a cheap way to get around the strip, and don't miss out on the rides at the top of the Stratosphere, the one that shoots straight up is a blast if you like that sort of thing.
Try the poker room. With 5 of you you could land a table pretty much to yourselves. Then you get the drinking, gambling, and chatting thing all at once
go shopping... thats always fun... watch girly fun movies... act all girly... sleepover party!!!
Vegas.com will help you out with that. they give you clubs and other place to go.
You can rent a party bus. Also, plan a spa day. The casino spa's out there are to die for. There are clubs at every casino. If you do decide on a show, check out Thunder from Down Under. Its a male review and its worth it should you decide. Its hard to say if she doesnt want to see a show or go see half dressed men.My best friend is getting married in Vegas - bachelorette party ideas?
Ive never been to vegas either, but maybe you guys could go to a spa, and a really nice place out to eat???just a suggestion! %26lt;3 Tell your friend congrats!!
I was in Vegas about 6 months ago. My roommate and I went and spent a dollar in ever casino that we walked through and then took a fun picture at each. That was the best part of our trip, just walking up and down the strip. Most of the good clubs are expensive to get into, so if you do that, pick one. They have a lot of good ones, look at vegas.com, they even have a special section for bachelorette party ideas.
My advice, risk looking funny with comfy shoes if you do decide to walk the strip because your feet will be killing you by the end of the night.
The tram is a cheap way to get around the strip, and don't miss out on the rides at the top of the Stratosphere, the one that shoots straight up is a blast if you like that sort of thing.
Try the poker room. With 5 of you you could land a table pretty much to yourselves. Then you get the drinking, gambling, and chatting thing all at once
go shopping... thats always fun... watch girly fun movies... act all girly... sleepover party!!!
Vegas.com will help you out with that. they give you clubs and other place to go.
What states can you get married in at age 13 and pregnant?
no i am not pregnant. i want to know what states are possible to get married in if you are pregnant/had a baby at 13 without parental consent.What states can you get married in at age 13 and pregnant?
OMFG Piper, polygamy is illegal for one thing, so no you can't legally marry more than one person in Utah. And there are NO states where you can legally get married at 13.
God people are stupid...What states can you get married in at age 13 and pregnant?
Georgia if bride can confirm pregnancy
Louisiana must apply and courts will take pregnancy into consideration
New Jersey can if pregnant
West Virginia has special provisions for pregnant underage brides
No states allow you to marry at 13 for any reason with or without parental consent. I think you'd have to find a third world country to get married at 13. Most places frown on children getting married.
Here is a web site that gives all the states and their laws on getting married...
http://www.coolnurse.com/marriage_laws.htm
Utah marriage laws are lax because there's some polygamy out there. So it would be utah
New Hampshire.
none, got to be 16 with parental consent, 18without it
None.lips
OMFG Piper, polygamy is illegal for one thing, so no you can't legally marry more than one person in Utah. And there are NO states where you can legally get married at 13.
God people are stupid...What states can you get married in at age 13 and pregnant?
Georgia if bride can confirm pregnancy
Louisiana must apply and courts will take pregnancy into consideration
New Jersey can if pregnant
West Virginia has special provisions for pregnant underage brides
No states allow you to marry at 13 for any reason with or without parental consent. I think you'd have to find a third world country to get married at 13. Most places frown on children getting married.
Here is a web site that gives all the states and their laws on getting married...
http://www.coolnurse.com/marriage_laws.htm
Utah marriage laws are lax because there's some polygamy out there. So it would be utah
New Hampshire.
none, got to be 16 with parental consent, 18without it
None.
If you get a marriage licence, but don't end up getting married, do you need to cancel the license?
I know there are lots of searchable public records and stuff, so would you have to cancel a license? Does just getting a license make you married, or do you have to go through with the marriage? Does the county office match up stuff later, or just assume you're married if you get a license?If you get a marriage licence, but don't end up getting married, do you need to cancel the license?
No, you just let it expire.If you get a marriage licence, but don't end up getting married, do you need to cancel the license?
no it will expire
answer plz
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ah2ybPfpsClBDxvyFK50csnsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090813225741AAX0S7o
no. They are registered as ';filed'; for the license. And then nothing happens until it is signed by both people AND the Minister or Notary or whoever conducted the marriage ceremony and then filed with the proper state agency.
No, you do not need to cancel the license. It will just expire on it's own.
No, you just let it expire.If you get a marriage licence, but don't end up getting married, do you need to cancel the license?
no it will expire
answer plz
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ah2ybPfpsClBDxvyFK50csnsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090813225741AAX0S7o
no. They are registered as ';filed'; for the license. And then nothing happens until it is signed by both people AND the Minister or Notary or whoever conducted the marriage ceremony and then filed with the proper state agency.
No, you do not need to cancel the license. It will just expire on it's own.
HELP - my niece is getting married next month and needs a good song for the 1st dance with her Father?
Please, does anyone have have any good songs in mind to dance with her Dad during the ceremony? What are some of the songs used in the past or what songs are you going to use on that first dance with Daddy? Thanks in advance.HELP - my niece is getting married next month and needs a good song for the 1st dance with her Father?
';Daddy's Angel'; - T. Carter
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=otOiO7nKy鈥?/a>
';Daddies %26amp; Daughters'; ... Lee Roy Parnell
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRaXVR3Z4鈥?/a>
';I Loved Her First'; - Heartland
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ab4VRWX8y鈥?/a>
';Daddy's Little Girl'; by David Glenn Band
http://www.myspace.com/davidglenn
';A Song For My Daughter'; - Mikki Viereck
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dbu4KeSms鈥?/a>
';Dance With Me Daughter'; - John McDermott
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4zqAXILUk鈥?/a>HELP - my niece is getting married next month and needs a good song for the 1st dance with her Father?
She and her dad can work it out. I don't see where it's any of your business.Why does your ';niece'; not ask herself?
Having said that, the usual ';Daddy's Little Girl'; songs really are vomit inducing -- Butterfly Kisses and that genre.
How about something more cheerful instead of depressing?
';Over the Rainbow/What a Wonderful World'; by Israel K...of Hawaii
';Do Nothing Til You Hear from Me'; by Harry Connick Jr.
';At Last'; by Etta James
';God Bless the Broken Road'; by Rascal Flatts
';Bad Reputation'; by Freedy Johnston
';Pure'; by the Lightning Seeds
Here are a few really good ones: ';I Loved Her First'; by Heartland, ';Butterfly Kisses'; by Bob Carlisle, ';The Angel in My Arms'; by Gloria Sklerov and Barbara Rothstein, and ';Cinderella'; by Steven Curtis Chapman.
Hope this helps!
Me and my dad are dancing to ';How do you fall in love'; by Alabama. Pretty Song with Sweet Lyrics.
Read them here: http://www.weddingvendors.com/music/lyri鈥?/a>
:)
My weddings next sunday and my father and I are dancing to
I loved her first by heartland...
However here are a few goods ones.
Butterfly kisses- Bob Carlise
Cinderella-Stephen Curtis Chapmen
Daddy's little girl- Tim Magraw
Daddy's Hands-
';my lIttle gIrl'; tIm Mcgraw '; ';what a wonderful world'; have dad pIck out song
';Daddy's Little Girl'; by the Mills Brothers
I'm going with I Loved her First by Heartland.
';Daddy's Little Girl'; is a common one. My daughter chose ';You Are The Wind Beneath My Wings.';
';I loved her first'; by Heartland!!!
';Daddy's Angel'; - T. Carter
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=otOiO7nKy鈥?/a>
';Daddies %26amp; Daughters'; ... Lee Roy Parnell
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRaXVR3Z4鈥?/a>
';I Loved Her First'; - Heartland
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ab4VRWX8y鈥?/a>
';Daddy's Little Girl'; by David Glenn Band
http://www.myspace.com/davidglenn
';A Song For My Daughter'; - Mikki Viereck
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dbu4KeSms鈥?/a>
';Dance With Me Daughter'; - John McDermott
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4zqAXILUk鈥?/a>HELP - my niece is getting married next month and needs a good song for the 1st dance with her Father?
She and her dad can work it out. I don't see where it's any of your business.Why does your ';niece'; not ask herself?
Having said that, the usual ';Daddy's Little Girl'; songs really are vomit inducing -- Butterfly Kisses and that genre.
How about something more cheerful instead of depressing?
';Over the Rainbow/What a Wonderful World'; by Israel K...of Hawaii
';Do Nothing Til You Hear from Me'; by Harry Connick Jr.
';At Last'; by Etta James
';God Bless the Broken Road'; by Rascal Flatts
';Bad Reputation'; by Freedy Johnston
';Pure'; by the Lightning Seeds
Here are a few really good ones: ';I Loved Her First'; by Heartland, ';Butterfly Kisses'; by Bob Carlisle, ';The Angel in My Arms'; by Gloria Sklerov and Barbara Rothstein, and ';Cinderella'; by Steven Curtis Chapman.
Hope this helps!
Me and my dad are dancing to ';How do you fall in love'; by Alabama. Pretty Song with Sweet Lyrics.
Read them here: http://www.weddingvendors.com/music/lyri鈥?/a>
:)
My weddings next sunday and my father and I are dancing to
I loved her first by heartland...
However here are a few goods ones.
Butterfly kisses- Bob Carlise
Cinderella-Stephen Curtis Chapmen
Daddy's little girl- Tim Magraw
Daddy's Hands-
';my lIttle gIrl'; tIm Mcgraw '; ';what a wonderful world'; have dad pIck out song
';Daddy's Little Girl'; by the Mills Brothers
I'm going with I Loved her First by Heartland.
';Daddy's Little Girl'; is a common one. My daughter chose ';You Are The Wind Beneath My Wings.';
';I loved her first'; by Heartland!!!
Would you want to know if your ex was planning to get married if there were small children involved?
How much should you know, or not know as a form of respect if you are no longer together, but there are children involved. I had to hear that my ex is getting married from my daughter. She's 7. Should I even care, or consider it as a form of disrespect?Would you want to know if your ex was planning to get married if there were small children involved?
I think you have the right to know who will be influencing your children. She/he will be their step parent and no doubt act in that way. You would inform your ex if you changed day care or school or Dr's wouldn't you? You should have been told out of courtesy as you are the parent of his/her children and hence are bound in some way for life.Would you want to know if your ex was planning to get married if there were small children involved?
No, what your ex does is HIS business not your's. He is no longer married to you so there is no reason for him to tell you what is going on in HIS personal life. The only reason you would care or consider it as a form of disrespect is if you were petty, immature and jealous of a man you were no longer married to.
But in my case I did know that my ';ex'; (we were never married) was getting married because our daughter was the flower girl in the wedding and I was invited to the wedding
He should have informed you because you have young children. His marriage is going to impact their life. You need to know about his new wife because your children will be spending time in their home. Discuss these issues with your ex as two mature people. If he starts to act like a vengeful idiot then you may have to get your lawyer involved to renegotiate the custody arrangements.
I don't think it was disrespectful that your ex told your daughter, its your ex, not your daughters, your ex is open with your daughter because the daughter is still part of his/her life, your not, your just the other parent, you really shouldn't care, as tough as it may be sometimes just act as if you were happy for the other parent, good luck.
I though that usually in a court order it is required that they give you notice that they intend to marry. If not, then I'd say out of common courtesy he should tell you. If he chooses not to, then there's really nothing you can do about it except find out her name and identifying information and have her background checked.
well i am sure you knew they were together for a while if they are getting marreid now. I am sure you knew she was already around the kids. So yeah anythign else is not your business. But if this was a secret for years and you had no idea your ex was even seeing anyone then yes you have a point. but if you knew already...which I am sure you did...then it should not be a big deal or any of your concern...move on...someone will make you happy one day
My teenagers told me when my ex was getting married. Since he wasn't respectful to me when we were married it would have been a stretch to expect respect after the divorce. You obviously have small children and need to know about any changes in his visitation with them.
You can consider it whatever. The 2 of you are not toegether anymore. He is fcking another woman. He does not owe you respect.
It is not a form of disrespect to you. However, since you and him have kids involved in this he should have told you.
I think you have the right to know who will be influencing your children. She/he will be their step parent and no doubt act in that way. You would inform your ex if you changed day care or school or Dr's wouldn't you? You should have been told out of courtesy as you are the parent of his/her children and hence are bound in some way for life.Would you want to know if your ex was planning to get married if there were small children involved?
No, what your ex does is HIS business not your's. He is no longer married to you so there is no reason for him to tell you what is going on in HIS personal life. The only reason you would care or consider it as a form of disrespect is if you were petty, immature and jealous of a man you were no longer married to.
But in my case I did know that my ';ex'; (we were never married) was getting married because our daughter was the flower girl in the wedding and I was invited to the wedding
He should have informed you because you have young children. His marriage is going to impact their life. You need to know about his new wife because your children will be spending time in their home. Discuss these issues with your ex as two mature people. If he starts to act like a vengeful idiot then you may have to get your lawyer involved to renegotiate the custody arrangements.
I don't think it was disrespectful that your ex told your daughter, its your ex, not your daughters, your ex is open with your daughter because the daughter is still part of his/her life, your not, your just the other parent, you really shouldn't care, as tough as it may be sometimes just act as if you were happy for the other parent, good luck.
I though that usually in a court order it is required that they give you notice that they intend to marry. If not, then I'd say out of common courtesy he should tell you. If he chooses not to, then there's really nothing you can do about it except find out her name and identifying information and have her background checked.
well i am sure you knew they were together for a while if they are getting marreid now. I am sure you knew she was already around the kids. So yeah anythign else is not your business. But if this was a secret for years and you had no idea your ex was even seeing anyone then yes you have a point. but if you knew already...which I am sure you did...then it should not be a big deal or any of your concern...move on...someone will make you happy one day
My teenagers told me when my ex was getting married. Since he wasn't respectful to me when we were married it would have been a stretch to expect respect after the divorce. You obviously have small children and need to know about any changes in his visitation with them.
You can consider it whatever. The 2 of you are not toegether anymore. He is fcking another woman. He does not owe you respect.
It is not a form of disrespect to you. However, since you and him have kids involved in this he should have told you.
What will Governor Palin do if Levi changes his mind about getting married?
A) Order the National Guard to destroy his house.
B) Ban him for life from playing hockey in Alaska
C) Dangle a cushy government job in front of him to change his mind
D) OtherWhat will Governor Palin do if Levi changes his mind about getting married?
She won't do anything except advise her daughter to get a family law attorney and have all custody, visitation, and child support agreements documented through the courts.
It's called personal responsibility, folks. He has the right to change his mind, but he still has to support his child for 18 years. Governor Palin isn't going to ';make'; him do anything.What will Governor Palin do if Levi changes his mind about getting married?
D - It will be after the election before you know that one way or another thats they way they look at this stuff
The GOP machine will just make it a good ol' NRA funded shotgun wedding!
d) her and mccain will give him a lot of money to stay with bristol!!
B) Ban him for life from playing hockey in Alaska
C) Dangle a cushy government job in front of him to change his mind
D) OtherWhat will Governor Palin do if Levi changes his mind about getting married?
She won't do anything except advise her daughter to get a family law attorney and have all custody, visitation, and child support agreements documented through the courts.
It's called personal responsibility, folks. He has the right to change his mind, but he still has to support his child for 18 years. Governor Palin isn't going to ';make'; him do anything.What will Governor Palin do if Levi changes his mind about getting married?
D - It will be after the election before you know that one way or another thats they way they look at this stuff
The GOP machine will just make it a good ol' NRA funded shotgun wedding!
d) her and mccain will give him a lot of money to stay with bristol!!
How much financial aid can I get for my son. I am married, but partially disabled.?
I have MS, but can currently work with insurance funded disability. I am wondering how this will play into seeking financial aid for my son. He' s only 13, but I'm thinking about it now.How much financial aid can I get for my son. I am married, but partially disabled.?
Be sure to visit the FAFSA web site. Its the free application for federal student aid. When he is a senior, or sometimes even a junior, you can fill this out and they will tell you how much he can get from the govt to go to school. The guidance counselors at his high school will be able to help with this. Also, there are programs out there at colleges that assist students with life situations, such as single parent, disabled parent, low income, etc. A good example would the EOF, educational opportunity fund program. I dont know where u live, but on the east coast, alot of colleges have this and it is extremely helpful. Its good to plan ahead...your son should be thankful!! A good start would be to talk with the guidance counselors when he enters the later grades of high school. good luck
I've found some good information here...
http://www.BestFinancialAid.info/
Good Luck.How much financial aid can I get for my son. I am married, but partially disabled.?
All student Federal and St6ate financial aid is determined by the FAFSA form. You can only apply in January of the year that he will start school. Need-based programs are just that, based on your household's total income, and yes, your now husband's income will have to be included in that total if you are married at that time. Loans are readily available to most everyone.
Also, some food for thought: Our current President is going to be doing an overhaul and rebuilding of the Financial Aid system in the US over the next decade or so to make more middle class students and parents eligible for aid. So things will most likely change drastically before your son is old enough for college.
I agree with delirious. Don't forget to have your son apply for a ton of scholarships when he hits his senior year in high school. There may even be one for children of a parent with MS -- they have a scholarship for just about everything! And scholarships = free money, which is always a good thing.
Be sure to visit the FAFSA web site. Its the free application for federal student aid. When he is a senior, or sometimes even a junior, you can fill this out and they will tell you how much he can get from the govt to go to school. The guidance counselors at his high school will be able to help with this. Also, there are programs out there at colleges that assist students with life situations, such as single parent, disabled parent, low income, etc. A good example would the EOF, educational opportunity fund program. I dont know where u live, but on the east coast, alot of colleges have this and it is extremely helpful. Its good to plan ahead...your son should be thankful!! A good start would be to talk with the guidance counselors when he enters the later grades of high school. good luck
I've found some good information here...
http://www.BestFinancialAid.info/
Good Luck.How much financial aid can I get for my son. I am married, but partially disabled.?
All student Federal and St6ate financial aid is determined by the FAFSA form. You can only apply in January of the year that he will start school. Need-based programs are just that, based on your household's total income, and yes, your now husband's income will have to be included in that total if you are married at that time. Loans are readily available to most everyone.
Also, some food for thought: Our current President is going to be doing an overhaul and rebuilding of the Financial Aid system in the US over the next decade or so to make more middle class students and parents eligible for aid. So things will most likely change drastically before your son is old enough for college.
I agree with delirious. Don't forget to have your son apply for a ton of scholarships when he hits his senior year in high school. There may even be one for children of a parent with MS -- they have a scholarship for just about everything! And scholarships = free money, which is always a good thing.
What is the cheapest time of year to get married at a Sandal's resort?
I was thinking of March/April but then a friend told me that they are very busy during that time and also they charge more...
any suggestions?
What is the best island to get married on?What is the cheapest time of year to get married at a Sandal's resort?
Depending on the location, March and April can be busy months (and therefore more expensive) because of Spring Break. However, for some locations this may be one of the few months you CAN go -- for instance, if you want to get married in the Caribbean, you probably want to avoid hurricane season, which pretty much means June through November. Also, keep in mind that Christmas and New Year's are the busiest times for the Caribbean (since those who live in colder climates want to escape to warmer places during the winter season). If you are flexible on your wedding date and are willing to do some last-minute planning, many resorts (including Sandals I think) will offer a ';last minute deal'; for booking only 2-4 months before your wedding.What is the cheapest time of year to get married at a Sandal's resort?
Their slow-time is usually during the summer, so you could probably get a better deal then. Antigua is amazing! I went there on a missions trip (a LONG way away from a comfy hotel, lol), and the island is just absolutely gorgeous! And the people are really friendly! Antigua's also one of the lesser-known islands, so it's probably less crowded.
Congratulations, and good luck!
You could talk to a travel agent regarding the most economical time of year for the destination you prefer, but also keep in mind that there could be reasons why the rates are low. For example, sometimes you can get a break on trips to places like Sandals in the fall, but it's also hurricane season, so you could run the risk of having to cancel your plans. A travel agent could provide this information to you.
Hope this helps!
jamaica is great, and antigua, we are trying the royal bahamian this summer. Sandals prices may be a little cheaper in the fall but it is mostly constant throughout the year:)lips
any suggestions?
What is the best island to get married on?What is the cheapest time of year to get married at a Sandal's resort?
Depending on the location, March and April can be busy months (and therefore more expensive) because of Spring Break. However, for some locations this may be one of the few months you CAN go -- for instance, if you want to get married in the Caribbean, you probably want to avoid hurricane season, which pretty much means June through November. Also, keep in mind that Christmas and New Year's are the busiest times for the Caribbean (since those who live in colder climates want to escape to warmer places during the winter season). If you are flexible on your wedding date and are willing to do some last-minute planning, many resorts (including Sandals I think) will offer a ';last minute deal'; for booking only 2-4 months before your wedding.What is the cheapest time of year to get married at a Sandal's resort?
Their slow-time is usually during the summer, so you could probably get a better deal then. Antigua is amazing! I went there on a missions trip (a LONG way away from a comfy hotel, lol), and the island is just absolutely gorgeous! And the people are really friendly! Antigua's also one of the lesser-known islands, so it's probably less crowded.
Congratulations, and good luck!
You could talk to a travel agent regarding the most economical time of year for the destination you prefer, but also keep in mind that there could be reasons why the rates are low. For example, sometimes you can get a break on trips to places like Sandals in the fall, but it's also hurricane season, so you could run the risk of having to cancel your plans. A travel agent could provide this information to you.
Hope this helps!
jamaica is great, and antigua, we are trying the royal bahamian this summer. Sandals prices may be a little cheaper in the fall but it is mostly constant throughout the year:)
I'm married to a US citizen. Can I file for adjustment of status and enroll full time at university?
I want to enroll at graduate school (MBA) while waiting for my green card. Another thing: after marriage you have a provisional green card for the first two years: are you entitled to travel abroad nonetheless?
thanks!I'm married to a US citizen. Can I file for adjustment of status and enroll full time at university?
If your green card status is pending you'd have to consult the university(ies) to which you wish to apply to see what their policies are regarding legal status. In most cases, however, you dont' have to show proof of legal status until you are ready to begin classes (which can be months to alomst a year after being accepted).
With a green card you are allowed to travel feely in and out of the United States at will. You cannot, however, travel as a United States citizen, so you would need a passport from your country of citizenship to travel internationally. Upon returning the United States you would be required to show your Permanent Resident Card (or Green Card) at Immigration and Customs.
thanks!I'm married to a US citizen. Can I file for adjustment of status and enroll full time at university?
If your green card status is pending you'd have to consult the university(ies) to which you wish to apply to see what their policies are regarding legal status. In most cases, however, you dont' have to show proof of legal status until you are ready to begin classes (which can be months to alomst a year after being accepted).
With a green card you are allowed to travel feely in and out of the United States at will. You cannot, however, travel as a United States citizen, so you would need a passport from your country of citizenship to travel internationally. Upon returning the United States you would be required to show your Permanent Resident Card (or Green Card) at Immigration and Customs.
Just got married. How do i go about getting my new spouse her ID card for base?
I am looking mainly at Fort Dix NJ if anyone has any specifics.Just got married. How do i go about getting my new spouse her ID card for base?
You will need your ID card, your marriage certificate and her social security card...her maiden name can be on the ssn card providing it matches the marriage certificate.
If its a different name, she will need to get a new ssn card.
Your ID card is your DEERS card. They are not two separate places. Pass and Registration is a different place. Your ID card is your DEERS card. I used DEERS to actually make the card. If you have an ID card, you are in DEERS.
The DEERS/ID card office may have a checklist for base agencies (like Finance, Hospital/Tricare) you need to visit to update your marriage properly. Congratulations!Just got married. How do i go about getting my new spouse her ID card for base?
Go to the nearest personnel office on base, and have a copy of the marriage licesne, her birth certificate, nay divorce papers you or she has, and apply. They will take her picture and issue her an ID.and make copies of the documentation for your file.
If she is not WITH you, you go fill out all the forms, and submit the right documents. Then she can go to the nearest base and have her picture taken. The base she is at can have the documetation faxed to them and issue her an ID.
Be sure to change your insurance and other papers to show her existence. Trust me.
In order to qualify for a Military ID card, her information must be entered into DEERS a a dependent under you. This is to be done at the Personnel Office usually. You will need a copy of the marriage certificate to do this and it can take a little while. You must update all the information and put her as your beneficiary. Once that is done she is started on Tricare Standard (co-pay and deductibles) and can get the card. She will need the copy of the marriage certificate, a photo ID and her SSN card (it can be in her maiden name). Once that is done she can use anything that is allowed. If she wishes to start on Tricare Prime, she will need to go to the closest Tricare office to change or fax in the information.
You will need a copy of the marriage certificate and her SSN card. If she changed her name, the SSN card needs to have her new name on it. Take these to the DEERs office, and then once she is in DEERs you can go to your Pass and ID office. Check your base directory for phone numbers for these offices to get the locations. Good luck.
My wife's daughter just got married and her husband is in the Army. She will need her birth certificate to get anything done. Just having the marriage license will not be enough. Make sure she has her birth certificate, marriage license, social security card.
Deers office
Id Card- You (Sponsor) and your new Spouse take your Certified Marriage certificate (%26amp; translation sheet if necessary-legal can do translation), Id card for spouse, SScard (if available) to the ID card section. And the will Enroll spouse into system. ID card is done on the spot or was at my last base.... Most of all as soon as spouse is enrolled Medical coverage is established!!! Hope this helps you out!
DA form 4187 to start with then take it, you spouce and your marriage certificate to the ID card section of the personnel office and get him/her their card.
You will need your ID card, your marriage certificate and her social security card...her maiden name can be on the ssn card providing it matches the marriage certificate.
If its a different name, she will need to get a new ssn card.
Your ID card is your DEERS card. They are not two separate places. Pass and Registration is a different place. Your ID card is your DEERS card. I used DEERS to actually make the card. If you have an ID card, you are in DEERS.
The DEERS/ID card office may have a checklist for base agencies (like Finance, Hospital/Tricare) you need to visit to update your marriage properly. Congratulations!Just got married. How do i go about getting my new spouse her ID card for base?
Go to the nearest personnel office on base, and have a copy of the marriage licesne, her birth certificate, nay divorce papers you or she has, and apply. They will take her picture and issue her an ID.and make copies of the documentation for your file.
If she is not WITH you, you go fill out all the forms, and submit the right documents. Then she can go to the nearest base and have her picture taken. The base she is at can have the documetation faxed to them and issue her an ID.
Be sure to change your insurance and other papers to show her existence. Trust me.
In order to qualify for a Military ID card, her information must be entered into DEERS a a dependent under you. This is to be done at the Personnel Office usually. You will need a copy of the marriage certificate to do this and it can take a little while. You must update all the information and put her as your beneficiary. Once that is done she is started on Tricare Standard (co-pay and deductibles) and can get the card. She will need the copy of the marriage certificate, a photo ID and her SSN card (it can be in her maiden name). Once that is done she can use anything that is allowed. If she wishes to start on Tricare Prime, she will need to go to the closest Tricare office to change or fax in the information.
You will need a copy of the marriage certificate and her SSN card. If she changed her name, the SSN card needs to have her new name on it. Take these to the DEERs office, and then once she is in DEERs you can go to your Pass and ID office. Check your base directory for phone numbers for these offices to get the locations. Good luck.
My wife's daughter just got married and her husband is in the Army. She will need her birth certificate to get anything done. Just having the marriage license will not be enough. Make sure she has her birth certificate, marriage license, social security card.
Deers office
Id Card- You (Sponsor) and your new Spouse take your Certified Marriage certificate (%26amp; translation sheet if necessary-legal can do translation), Id card for spouse, SScard (if available) to the ID card section. And the will Enroll spouse into system. ID card is done on the spot or was at my last base.... Most of all as soon as spouse is enrolled Medical coverage is established!!! Hope this helps you out!
DA form 4187 to start with then take it, you spouce and your marriage certificate to the ID card section of the personnel office and get him/her their card.
What do my bf need for us to get married here or what are th requirements needed?
we will get married here in the philippines and he will stay here for 6 months.do you think thats an enough time for me to get approve for the k3? coz we'r e planning to leave together so he will wait for me until i get the visa do you think guys how long will it take to get approve?What do my bf need for us to get married here or what are th requirements needed?
It will take longer if you are applying for a K3. Why don't you just start the paperwork now for a K1 visa? the whole process should only take about 180 days, while k3 takes about 2 years.
and one more thing, the US immigration law requires that the petitioner be in United States during the petition process.What do my bf need for us to get married here or what are th requirements needed?
Keep your hooks in him and don't let him leave without you. You have to get out of that hell hole! Keep fng his brains out so he doen't have a chance to even think that all you want is to get out of that rat infested monkey meat jungle. Mabuhay and koochee koochee sailor boy want some party time girley girley action time ten pesos a dance?
It won't happen in six months, expect it to take a year.
Since he does not live permanently in the Philippines he will not be allowed to file directly with the US embassy. He'll have to file with the Citizenship and Immigration Service Office back in the US that has responsibility for his US residence.
He'll need to file an I-130 and a G-325 along with all the supporting documents and evidence. You can find the forms and their instructions here.....
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/m鈥?/a>
His initial visa waiver will be for 21 days. Before it expires he will need to report to Philippine Immigration and apply for an extension. I believe, for a fee, they will extend him to 60 days. Before that expires he'll need to go back and once again apply for an extension and pay a fee. The fees get progressively higher each time he extends his stay.
If he fails to get the proper extensions he'll be stopped at the airport during his Customs and Immigration clearance and heavily fined. He could end up missing his flight. He could be taken into detention until the next flight out.
He will need to check the US embassy's web page for Americans who intend to get married in the Philippines. You'll find it here...
http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwha009.htm鈥?/a>
Specifically, he'll need to obtain a ';Certificate of Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage.';
Any foreigner who wishes to marry in the Philippines is required by the Philippine Government to obtain from his/her Embassy a ';Certificate of Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage'; before filing an application for a marriage license. This certification affirms that there are no legal impediments to the foreigner marrying a Filipino (i.e, that the foreigner is already married to someone else). Unlike the Philippines, the U.S. Government does not keep a central statistical registry for births, marriages and deaths and cannot verify this information. Instead, the Philippine Government accepts an ';Affidavit in Lieu of a Certificate of Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage.'; Americans may execute this affidavit at the American Embassy in Manila or the U.S. Consular Agency in Cebu. Personal appearances of the American citizen applicant cannot be waived, but the fiance(e) need not be present. Philippine authorities will not accept any substitute document initiated in the United States.
Applicants may apply for the ';Affidavit in Lieu of a Certificate of Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage'; at the Embassy's American Citizen Services Branch everyday from Monday through Friday from 8:00 - 10:00 am.(except Philippine and American holidays). The American must present his/her U.S. passport. There is a fee of $30.00 or its peso equivalent for the affidavit, payable in cash only.
The Affidavit is notarized by a U.S. consular officer. The consular officer can refuse to perform this service if the document will be used for a purpose patently unlawful, improper, or inimical to the best interest of the United States. Entering into a marriage contract with an alien strictly for the purpose of enabling entry to the United States for that individual is considered an unlawful act. Section 4221 of Title 22 United States Code provides penalties for individuals who commit perjury in an affidavit taken by a consular officer.
Longer than if you get a K-1 and marry in the US. But if speed of paperwork is not your sole goal, then apply and keep your fingers crossed.
6 months is a mnimum amount of time to process if there are no snagsl One to 3 years seems to be what I hear for a K3.
I agree that it will take about one year. He will want to have someone in the US to collect his mail and forward information to him. He can and should come to the PI with all of the documents from the US that he will need for your visa application, to make things easier.
He will need to show that he has an income in the US sufficient to support his household, or make other arrangements. This may be difficult if he is living overseas.
It will take longer if you are applying for a K3. Why don't you just start the paperwork now for a K1 visa? the whole process should only take about 180 days, while k3 takes about 2 years.
and one more thing, the US immigration law requires that the petitioner be in United States during the petition process.What do my bf need for us to get married here or what are th requirements needed?
Keep your hooks in him and don't let him leave without you. You have to get out of that hell hole! Keep fng his brains out so he doen't have a chance to even think that all you want is to get out of that rat infested monkey meat jungle. Mabuhay and koochee koochee sailor boy want some party time girley girley action time ten pesos a dance?
It won't happen in six months, expect it to take a year.
Since he does not live permanently in the Philippines he will not be allowed to file directly with the US embassy. He'll have to file with the Citizenship and Immigration Service Office back in the US that has responsibility for his US residence.
He'll need to file an I-130 and a G-325 along with all the supporting documents and evidence. You can find the forms and their instructions here.....
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/m鈥?/a>
His initial visa waiver will be for 21 days. Before it expires he will need to report to Philippine Immigration and apply for an extension. I believe, for a fee, they will extend him to 60 days. Before that expires he'll need to go back and once again apply for an extension and pay a fee. The fees get progressively higher each time he extends his stay.
If he fails to get the proper extensions he'll be stopped at the airport during his Customs and Immigration clearance and heavily fined. He could end up missing his flight. He could be taken into detention until the next flight out.
He will need to check the US embassy's web page for Americans who intend to get married in the Philippines. You'll find it here...
http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwha009.htm鈥?/a>
Specifically, he'll need to obtain a ';Certificate of Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage.';
Any foreigner who wishes to marry in the Philippines is required by the Philippine Government to obtain from his/her Embassy a ';Certificate of Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage'; before filing an application for a marriage license. This certification affirms that there are no legal impediments to the foreigner marrying a Filipino (i.e, that the foreigner is already married to someone else). Unlike the Philippines, the U.S. Government does not keep a central statistical registry for births, marriages and deaths and cannot verify this information. Instead, the Philippine Government accepts an ';Affidavit in Lieu of a Certificate of Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage.'; Americans may execute this affidavit at the American Embassy in Manila or the U.S. Consular Agency in Cebu. Personal appearances of the American citizen applicant cannot be waived, but the fiance(e) need not be present. Philippine authorities will not accept any substitute document initiated in the United States.
Applicants may apply for the ';Affidavit in Lieu of a Certificate of Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage'; at the Embassy's American Citizen Services Branch everyday from Monday through Friday from 8:00 - 10:00 am.(except Philippine and American holidays). The American must present his/her U.S. passport. There is a fee of $30.00 or its peso equivalent for the affidavit, payable in cash only.
The Affidavit is notarized by a U.S. consular officer. The consular officer can refuse to perform this service if the document will be used for a purpose patently unlawful, improper, or inimical to the best interest of the United States. Entering into a marriage contract with an alien strictly for the purpose of enabling entry to the United States for that individual is considered an unlawful act. Section 4221 of Title 22 United States Code provides penalties for individuals who commit perjury in an affidavit taken by a consular officer.
Longer than if you get a K-1 and marry in the US. But if speed of paperwork is not your sole goal, then apply and keep your fingers crossed.
6 months is a mnimum amount of time to process if there are no snagsl One to 3 years seems to be what I hear for a K3.
I agree that it will take about one year. He will want to have someone in the US to collect his mail and forward information to him. He can and should come to the PI with all of the documents from the US that he will need for your visa application, to make things easier.
He will need to show that he has an income in the US sufficient to support his household, or make other arrangements. This may be difficult if he is living overseas.
Has any married or single woman ever slapped a guy that touched you inappropriately?
I just answered a question that made me remember one time at a party where a guy grabbed my wife on the butt and she turned around and slapped the living day lights out of this guy. She does not liked to be touched inappropriately except by me.
I would like to hear your stories?Has any married or single woman ever slapped a guy that touched you inappropriately?
I'm married now, but back when hubby and I were living together we went to a club and i'm big breasted. This one guy was with his three friends and took it upon himself to grab both of my boobs while I was walking by and I did the same thing I quickly raised my hand and slapped his dumb *** across the face. We were in a hurry and when I didn't tell my then b/f now hubby until we were already leaving because he has a temper and he would have made a big thing there. lol
I would like to hear your stories?Has any married or single woman ever slapped a guy that touched you inappropriately?
I'm married now, but back when hubby and I were living together we went to a club and i'm big breasted. This one guy was with his three friends and took it upon himself to grab both of my boobs while I was walking by and I did the same thing I quickly raised my hand and slapped his dumb *** across the face. We were in a hurry and when I didn't tell my then b/f now hubby until we were already leaving because he has a temper and he would have made a big thing there. lol
What if you invite your foreign fianc茅e to visit the U.S as a tourist, and get married?
requesting status change promptly would not affect things or she would get deported back to her home country?What if you invite your foreign fianc茅e to visit the U.S as a tourist, and get married?
Going to the US on a tourist visa with the intent of getting married is illegal.She should have her American fiance petition her for a K-1 visa instead.That way she could easily apply for Adjustment of Status after getting married within 90days after her arrival.What if you invite your foreign fianc茅e to visit the U.S as a tourist, and get married?
if she can get in the u.s. that won't cause any problem. But she can not become a citizen automatically. First she will be a permanent resident (it will take some time), then after three years she can apply for u.s. citizenship.
When you have proper way of doing it, why adopt un fair means?
Going to the US on a tourist visa with the intent of getting married is illegal.She should have her American fiance petition her for a K-1 visa instead.That way she could easily apply for Adjustment of Status after getting married within 90days after her arrival.What if you invite your foreign fianc茅e to visit the U.S as a tourist, and get married?
if she can get in the u.s. that won't cause any problem. But she can not become a citizen automatically. First she will be a permanent resident (it will take some time), then after three years she can apply for u.s. citizenship.
When you have proper way of doing it, why adopt un fair means?
Do any married women really go to Walmart looking for guys and couples with red caps, looking to have a fling?
I read this in one of the groups and am curious if this really happens.Do any married women really go to Walmart looking for guys and couples with red caps, looking to have a fling?
I think if someone actually did this they would leave with about $200 of sh*t they didn't really need and an acute disappointment that there was not one red cap in sight.
Suckers.Do any married women really go to Walmart looking for guys and couples with red caps, looking to have a fling?
That's a good one!! I almost spilled my coffee laughing at this Question.
It sounds almost as bad as ';nude midnight shopping'; I read about years ago to get more singles into the store and increase business.
HA!! I can see it all now, nothing but a bunch of older perverted guys walking around butt naked pushing a cart filled with toilet paper ! ! ! now I am spilling my coffee laughing.
Have a great day !!!!
Yeah, and gang members lay and wait for you under your car to slit your ankles then take your money!
Oh yeah, and then there are all the HIV infected needles on the gas pumps..........
I personally don't think Wal-mart would be the ideal choice. Maybe Ikea or something. It's more affordable nicer home furniture. Better selection. Even if they did, that is still strange.
Why if its true, your planning on shopping there too i mean shopping for ladies not groceries.
Sounds a little far fetched, but I'm putting on my red cap and heading to Wal-Mart!
I'll let you know how I make out.
I don't but then i have good taste...not all married women do though..same goes for some married men!
Oh, hell no.
LOL! Never heard that one before.
HMMPH! that's a trip maybe i'll go to walmart %26amp; see if its true. BTF outta me
Not that I know of, but I will be sure my fiance and I never wear red hats in walmart! :)
lmao at Katrina....Sheesh I hope not!
LOL, I suppose some do, but not this one!
I've never even heard of that..... What's with the red caps?
I think if someone actually did this they would leave with about $200 of sh*t they didn't really need and an acute disappointment that there was not one red cap in sight.
Suckers.Do any married women really go to Walmart looking for guys and couples with red caps, looking to have a fling?
That's a good one!! I almost spilled my coffee laughing at this Question.
It sounds almost as bad as ';nude midnight shopping'; I read about years ago to get more singles into the store and increase business.
HA!! I can see it all now, nothing but a bunch of older perverted guys walking around butt naked pushing a cart filled with toilet paper ! ! ! now I am spilling my coffee laughing.
Have a great day !!!!
Yeah, and gang members lay and wait for you under your car to slit your ankles then take your money!
Oh yeah, and then there are all the HIV infected needles on the gas pumps..........
I personally don't think Wal-mart would be the ideal choice. Maybe Ikea or something. It's more affordable nicer home furniture. Better selection. Even if they did, that is still strange.
Why if its true, your planning on shopping there too i mean shopping for ladies not groceries.
Sounds a little far fetched, but I'm putting on my red cap and heading to Wal-Mart!
I'll let you know how I make out.
I don't but then i have good taste...not all married women do though..same goes for some married men!
Oh, hell no.
LOL! Never heard that one before.
HMMPH! that's a trip maybe i'll go to walmart %26amp; see if its true. BTF outta me
Not that I know of, but I will be sure my fiance and I never wear red hats in walmart! :)
lmao at Katrina....Sheesh I hope not!
LOL, I suppose some do, but not this one!
I've never even heard of that..... What's with the red caps?
What would you say to a member who got married ,and has just come back from her honeymoon ?
Moonrise got married to Mr Right .
she had a small wedding party .
she and Mr Right went on their honeymoon to Sharm.
they have just returned to Cairo , and Yahoo .
what will you say on this occasion ?What would you say to a member who got married ,and has just come back from her honeymoon ?
i will say to ur husband and to u:
'; بارك الله لك ، وبارك عليك ، وجمع بينكما في خير ';
and u can make all ur life honey moon
just follow what our islam order us in life
and make every month honeymoon and change ur life style to don t feel borring and inshallah all ur life ll be happy
i ask ALLAH to give u happeness and nice life
ur friend hazemWhat would you say to a member who got married ,and has just come back from her honeymoon ?
Congratulations, Moonrise!!! I didn't see you for awhile and had the feeling that you probably got married. I'm so happy for you and wish you a successful and happy marriage with Mr Right...
congratulation madam moonrise
@im diffirant:i got your words from first time i read it but you know some ppl when thumb you down once so them hand used to do it all time lol 7afzen msh fahmen ya3ny lol
@eman g:3o2bal ma afra7 feaky 2orayb 3asl 3asl ha lol el nas de habla wala eah
first of all i will bring them a gift
i will do what ever they want
i will support their marriage
congrats. moonrise ... i would say for you ... dont go with the flow ... and make him always no. 1 in your life ... nothing becomes before him .. not your studies not your work not anything ... you have a better reason now to live ... you now own someones heart :)
4 thumbs down !!! :D
ya ged3an ento fhmtoni ghlat ... ana a2sod enha mtnshghlsh fl shoghl we el donia we tnsa en fe wa7ed by7bha we hya bt7bo .... we enha thtm bebtha awlan we b3d kda kol hga tania .. we msh enha tlghi nfsha 3shn etgwzt .... akid arb3a banat el 3amlo el 3amla deh :D
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i forgot to say congrats to MR . Right :)
Flame : shklhom 7fzen msh fahmen f3lan :D
Well, I'd say something like:
Congratulations to both of you, and may Allah make your life together a full happiness :)
Simple, but true wish :)
As u got MR right he is also lucky by you
MABROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO… 1000000000000000000000000 MABROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOK w 3o2balna:D
alf alf alf alf mabroukk ya Moonrise !
ya rab kol your days ma3 ba3d teba gameelaa lol
translation in case u didn't get that lol
i hope all your days together will be great
wishh u all thee bestt withh Mr Right !
CONGRATTSSSS
:)
I would tell her ya bakht el 3aris, lazem ommak da3yalak.
I would also tell her that I wish for her happiness always, health always and peace of mind always.
MABROOOOOOOOK dear Moonrise.
Wallahy da a7la 7'abar seme3to elnaharda.
Alf alf mabrouk we 3okbal el bakary.
congratulations moonrise wish you the best
wish you a sweet happy familylife
Ahlaan wasahlan ya habubah ... Incha Alaah tamata3tee bi re7laah wa shuftu ba3deekum ba3dh, Haaaai kaif kan alwaqt wakaif madhaytuuuuh? Huuum Huuuum enti 3arfah a3nee aiiiiih ? Aaaah kadah ya shatrah .... loooool
thats why i've been missing you here!!
congratulations ya amar rabna yefa2ek we yebareklek
lololololololiiiiiiiiiiiii
:)))))))))))))
Congratulations, I wish you a happy and blessed married life.
Congratulations Moonrise. I wish you a happy life with you husband by God willing.
congrats-lets hope the babies come ';aflowin'';
congratulations ya moonrise
hope you all the best :)
Congrats and best wishes to the two of you! Does Mr. Right visit Egypt Section, too? Sorry, 'just being nosy :) Any photos you want to share with us?
id say why small .. ??? judging from what i know about u , i'd expect a HUGE party in Four Seasons or something =p smthg for the newspapers u know. ..
Mabrook .. w 3o2bel Sunshine Junior ... =))))))]
there's no internet in Sharm ? .. why didn't u log on from there ? oh right .. u were busy .. getting busy ;))))
EA DAAAAAAAAAAAAH....MABROOOOOOOOOOOK!!!! :)))
first we all missed u here!!, and i want to wish u a wonderful life with him and hope u had a great time in sharm!
Mr Right.is a lucky man.to have you Moonrise.
I would say Alf Mabrouk and welcome back and ask how and when that happen while she was always here.
Congrats Moonrise, so happy for you.
Thats why you were absent ahhhhhhhhh 3asal 3asal y3ni ;-)
lololololololololololiiiii
Mabrook ya Mrs Right =)
enshallah ya rub you live a happy life together xox
mabroooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo…
:))
i think u should buys us all a meal :D
hehe just kidding
alef mabrook
congratulations dear
miss u 2 much
hope u greater life and happiness at all times :-*
hi i remember you answering some of my questions before:D
I would just like to say a big MABROOOOOK!!!!!!
Congratulations!! So how is your plan of building football team? XD
Hi Moonrise
You came back so soon???
i say...'have a nice day or bad day ha...
gratzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.
she had a small wedding party .
she and Mr Right went on their honeymoon to Sharm.
they have just returned to Cairo , and Yahoo .
what will you say on this occasion ?What would you say to a member who got married ,and has just come back from her honeymoon ?
i will say to ur husband and to u:
'; بارك الله لك ، وبارك عليك ، وجمع بينكما في خير ';
and u can make all ur life honey moon
just follow what our islam order us in life
and make every month honeymoon and change ur life style to don t feel borring and inshallah all ur life ll be happy
i ask ALLAH to give u happeness and nice life
ur friend hazemWhat would you say to a member who got married ,and has just come back from her honeymoon ?
Congratulations, Moonrise!!! I didn't see you for awhile and had the feeling that you probably got married. I'm so happy for you and wish you a successful and happy marriage with Mr Right...
congratulation madam moonrise
@im diffirant:i got your words from first time i read it but you know some ppl when thumb you down once so them hand used to do it all time lol 7afzen msh fahmen ya3ny lol
@eman g:3o2bal ma afra7 feaky 2orayb 3asl 3asl ha lol el nas de habla wala eah
first of all i will bring them a gift
i will do what ever they want
i will support their marriage
congrats. moonrise ... i would say for you ... dont go with the flow ... and make him always no. 1 in your life ... nothing becomes before him .. not your studies not your work not anything ... you have a better reason now to live ... you now own someones heart :)
4 thumbs down !!! :D
ya ged3an ento fhmtoni ghlat ... ana a2sod enha mtnshghlsh fl shoghl we el donia we tnsa en fe wa7ed by7bha we hya bt7bo .... we enha thtm bebtha awlan we b3d kda kol hga tania .. we msh enha tlghi nfsha 3shn etgwzt .... akid arb3a banat el 3amlo el 3amla deh :D
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i forgot to say congrats to MR . Right :)
Flame : shklhom 7fzen msh fahmen f3lan :D
Well, I'd say something like:
Congratulations to both of you, and may Allah make your life together a full happiness :)
Simple, but true wish :)
As u got MR right he is also lucky by you
MABROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO… 1000000000000000000000000 MABROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOK w 3o2balna:D
alf alf alf alf mabroukk ya Moonrise !
ya rab kol your days ma3 ba3d teba gameelaa lol
translation in case u didn't get that lol
i hope all your days together will be great
wishh u all thee bestt withh Mr Right !
CONGRATTSSSS
:)
I would tell her ya bakht el 3aris, lazem ommak da3yalak.
I would also tell her that I wish for her happiness always, health always and peace of mind always.
MABROOOOOOOOK dear Moonrise.
Wallahy da a7la 7'abar seme3to elnaharda.
Alf alf mabrouk we 3okbal el bakary.
congratulations moonrise wish you the best
wish you a sweet happy familylife
Ahlaan wasahlan ya habubah ... Incha Alaah tamata3tee bi re7laah wa shuftu ba3deekum ba3dh, Haaaai kaif kan alwaqt wakaif madhaytuuuuh? Huuum Huuuum enti 3arfah a3nee aiiiiih ? Aaaah kadah ya shatrah .... loooool
thats why i've been missing you here!!
congratulations ya amar rabna yefa2ek we yebareklek
lololololololiiiiiiiiiiiii
:)))))))))))))
Congratulations, I wish you a happy and blessed married life.
Congratulations Moonrise. I wish you a happy life with you husband by God willing.
congrats-lets hope the babies come ';aflowin'';
congratulations ya moonrise
hope you all the best :)
Congrats and best wishes to the two of you! Does Mr. Right visit Egypt Section, too? Sorry, 'just being nosy :) Any photos you want to share with us?
id say why small .. ??? judging from what i know about u , i'd expect a HUGE party in Four Seasons or something =p smthg for the newspapers u know. ..
Mabrook .. w 3o2bel Sunshine Junior ... =))))))]
there's no internet in Sharm ? .. why didn't u log on from there ? oh right .. u were busy .. getting busy ;))))
EA DAAAAAAAAAAAAH....MABROOOOOOOOOOOK!!!! :)))
first we all missed u here!!, and i want to wish u a wonderful life with him and hope u had a great time in sharm!
Mr Right.is a lucky man.to have you Moonrise.
I would say Alf Mabrouk and welcome back and ask how and when that happen while she was always here.
Congrats Moonrise, so happy for you.
Thats why you were absent ahhhhhhhhh 3asal 3asal y3ni ;-)
lololololololololololiiiii
Mabrook ya Mrs Right =)
enshallah ya rub you live a happy life together xox
mabroooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo…
:))
i think u should buys us all a meal :D
hehe just kidding
alef mabrook
congratulations dear
miss u 2 much
hope u greater life and happiness at all times :-*
hi i remember you answering some of my questions before:D
I would just like to say a big MABROOOOOK!!!!!!
Congratulations!! So how is your plan of building football team? XD
Hi Moonrise
You came back so soon???
i say...'have a nice day or bad day ha...
gratzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.
Can a married couple file Chapter 7 jointly?
Since we have separate debts and joint debts, so I suspect the answer is yes, but I need to get some feedback.Can a married couple file Chapter 7 jointly?
Yes you can. In some states, if one partner files the other is required to file also.
While bankruptcy is a federal program, states also have different requirements in filing. It is best to check with a bankruptcy attorney. The first consultation is free and they can at least look at your situation and tell you what you can and can not do in your location.
Not everyone qualifies for filing bankruptcy.
Yes you can. In some states, if one partner files the other is required to file also.
While bankruptcy is a federal program, states also have different requirements in filing. It is best to check with a bankruptcy attorney. The first consultation is free and they can at least look at your situation and tell you what you can and can not do in your location.
Not everyone qualifies for filing bankruptcy.
I notice there are some women who are already married but they always dress very sexually. I thought they alre?
I notice there are some women who are already married but they always dress very sexually. I thought they already found their ideal mate and there is no longer a need to look for other guys, but they still dress that way? Anyone know why?I notice there are some women who are already married but they always dress very sexually. I thought they alre?
I'm sure it depends on the person. For some people, it may just be their idea of fashion, and dressing in a way that you would consider less provocative seems frumpy to them.
Maybe they enjoy the attention, even if they aren't looking for a date. I'm married and I still like a smile or a (respectful) compliment.
Maybe they want to look attractive to their mate.I notice there are some women who are already married but they always dress very sexually. I thought they alre?
Well, if I was ever to get married, Id want my wife to look sexy, just cuz ur married doesnt mean you let go of your appearance...
Yah, to keep their ol' man happy so he aint out looking around!
I'm sure it depends on the person. For some people, it may just be their idea of fashion, and dressing in a way that you would consider less provocative seems frumpy to them.
Maybe they enjoy the attention, even if they aren't looking for a date. I'm married and I still like a smile or a (respectful) compliment.
Maybe they want to look attractive to their mate.I notice there are some women who are already married but they always dress very sexually. I thought they alre?
Well, if I was ever to get married, Id want my wife to look sexy, just cuz ur married doesnt mean you let go of your appearance...
Yah, to keep their ol' man happy so he aint out looking around!
What happened with your immigration status when you get married with a Canadians?
I'm mexican and I'm going to get married with a canadian citizen, he can't sponsore me right now, what is the easiest way to change my immigration status to skilled worker or spouse?What happened with your immigration status when you get married with a Canadians?
the answer is within yourselfWhat happened with your immigration status when you get married with a Canadians?
that depends on you
the answer is within yourselfWhat happened with your immigration status when you get married with a Canadians?
that depends on you
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I got married in the last six months and am wondering if I have to get a new U.S. passport?
I used my old passport to travel to Central America for our honeymoon since I hadn't legally changed my name yet, but now I have. We're thinking about a last-minute trip to China in a month and I'm wondering if my old passport will still do or if I have to apply for a new one since my name has changed.I got married in the last six months and am wondering if I have to get a new U.S. passport?
I've been married for four years, and recently used my passport with my maiden name to travel to Canada. When I was booking my ticket, I booked it in my maiden name and then had the proper documentation (passport) to support the boarding pass.
One reminder, when you are checking in for the flight, scan your passport rather than your credit/debit card so you can find your reservation.
One recomendation, bring your birth certificate and marriage license to document a legal name change, just in case you have any issues.lips
I've been married for four years, and recently used my passport with my maiden name to travel to Canada. When I was booking my ticket, I booked it in my maiden name and then had the proper documentation (passport) to support the boarding pass.
One reminder, when you are checking in for the flight, scan your passport rather than your credit/debit card so you can find your reservation.
One recomendation, bring your birth certificate and marriage license to document a legal name change, just in case you have any issues.
Does it really cost more for college if your married then if your single?
Ok I was raised on it's cheaper to stay single through out college because it costs more in tuition if you are married. Is this true or are my parents using it on me so they have a reason to make me wait to get married?Does it really cost more for college if your married then if your single?
Completely untrue. Tuition is the same for everyone, unless you go to a public school, and then it will depend on whether you are a resident or not. In fact, married students tend to get much better financial aid because they are not required to claim their parents' income for financial aid purposes.Does it really cost more for college if your married then if your single?
Being married or single has no effect on what you will pay for tuition.
However it will have an effect on how much grants and such from the Government you can get. If you are married, you will receive more money from PELL Grant (if you qualify). You will have to fill out the FAFSA http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/ And when it ask how many people will be going to college that year always put you and hubby. They really don't check to see if hubby is going to college and you really don't know if he will go. That way there is technically 2 of you going to school and that will give you a little bit more in Financial Aid.
Trust me we get more in PELL Grant being married, than if I were single. Not a huge difference but enough to purchase a couple books. And every bit helps with your education expensives.
No, it costs the same. But on the other topic, yes, your parents are misinforming you in hopes that you will wait to get married until you are older. Quite frankly, I agree that getting married when you are too young is often a mistake, but they could have been a bit more forthright with their reasoning. I mean, really, if you don't want your kid to get married young, at least come up with a reason that isn't so easily proven wrong. It just shows a terrible lack of imagination...
No. It will always be the same if you are single, married, divorced, remarried, or re divorced.
Being married has no effect on tuition (at least here in America)
no, it can be less expensive if you and ur wife split the cost!
Completely untrue. Tuition is the same for everyone, unless you go to a public school, and then it will depend on whether you are a resident or not. In fact, married students tend to get much better financial aid because they are not required to claim their parents' income for financial aid purposes.Does it really cost more for college if your married then if your single?
Being married or single has no effect on what you will pay for tuition.
However it will have an effect on how much grants and such from the Government you can get. If you are married, you will receive more money from PELL Grant (if you qualify). You will have to fill out the FAFSA http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/ And when it ask how many people will be going to college that year always put you and hubby. They really don't check to see if hubby is going to college and you really don't know if he will go. That way there is technically 2 of you going to school and that will give you a little bit more in Financial Aid.
Trust me we get more in PELL Grant being married, than if I were single. Not a huge difference but enough to purchase a couple books. And every bit helps with your education expensives.
No, it costs the same. But on the other topic, yes, your parents are misinforming you in hopes that you will wait to get married until you are older. Quite frankly, I agree that getting married when you are too young is often a mistake, but they could have been a bit more forthright with their reasoning. I mean, really, if you don't want your kid to get married young, at least come up with a reason that isn't so easily proven wrong. It just shows a terrible lack of imagination...
No. It will always be the same if you are single, married, divorced, remarried, or re divorced.
Being married has no effect on tuition (at least here in America)
no, it can be less expensive if you and ur wife split the cost!
Would she still be sinning even if she is married when this situation presents itself?
A married couple live together happily, but the husband is sent away to Iraq. Would the wife be wrong to masterbate since her husband is not home, or call him and talk dirty to him on the phone?
What if the husband died, his best friend came about and lets say, helped her during this rough time and they fell in love. Would she be sinning or because the husband is dead, she is right to fall in love again?
I learn something new each and everyday... Thanks in advance.Would she still be sinning even if she is married when this situation presents itself?
It's absurd to think she's wrong to masturbate while he's away. And if they can talk sexuallly (it's not 'dirty' ... well, not unless you're doing it right) then so much the better; if that's the only way they can enjoy each other, then go for it.
If her husband dies, then she is free to marry again. If she chooses to have sex before remarriage, that's on her conscience; the bible is much less clear about it than many would like you to think. But yes, of course she can fall in love again.Would she still be sinning even if she is married when this situation presents itself?
The Bible actually says nothing about masturbation specifically. It DOES say that you aren't permitted to lust after anyone who isn't your spouse, but so long as you can avoid that, the christian deity apparently doesn't give a damn.
Why should she live a life of misery because an ancient cave dweller's book tells her to? In this situation she is doing what is perfectly normal, and not hurting anyone at all.
So what is your question??? Do you want to know if masturbating and sleeping around a sin? Ehhh I don't know, probably but every ones doing it.
Masturbating would be sinning.
She can fall in love again, but she needs to say sexually pure until she's married again.
What if the husband died, his best friend came about and lets say, helped her during this rough time and they fell in love. Would she be sinning or because the husband is dead, she is right to fall in love again?
I learn something new each and everyday... Thanks in advance.Would she still be sinning even if she is married when this situation presents itself?
It's absurd to think she's wrong to masturbate while he's away. And if they can talk sexuallly (it's not 'dirty' ... well, not unless you're doing it right) then so much the better; if that's the only way they can enjoy each other, then go for it.
If her husband dies, then she is free to marry again. If she chooses to have sex before remarriage, that's on her conscience; the bible is much less clear about it than many would like you to think. But yes, of course she can fall in love again.Would she still be sinning even if she is married when this situation presents itself?
The Bible actually says nothing about masturbation specifically. It DOES say that you aren't permitted to lust after anyone who isn't your spouse, but so long as you can avoid that, the christian deity apparently doesn't give a damn.
Why should she live a life of misery because an ancient cave dweller's book tells her to? In this situation she is doing what is perfectly normal, and not hurting anyone at all.
So what is your question??? Do you want to know if masturbating and sleeping around a sin? Ehhh I don't know, probably but every ones doing it.
Masturbating would be sinning.
She can fall in love again, but she needs to say sexually pure until she's married again.
Is it possible to have a normal best friend relationship with a guy if you are a married woman?
And still hang out together, go out to lunch sometimes, see movies, etc.?Or does it just get to complicated?Is it possible to have a normal best friend relationship with a guy if you are a married woman?
In my case the shoe is on the other foot...I'm the single one and one of my Dearest and Closest Most Loved friends is a married man....my sons Ex-Football Coach...I Love Him with all of my heart and we have a great time together...he is 10 years younger and I look upon him as the little brother I never had...He gets more flirtatious at times and I just laugh ...in these kind of relationships one of you definitely has to keep your wits about you or it can turn in the Wrong direction...Is it possible to have a normal best friend relationship with a guy if you are a married woman?
No. Your ';best friend'; should be your husband.
It is not a good idea to spend a lot of time alone with a man who is not your husband. There are several potential problems, such as the likelihood of sexual undercurrents in the relationship and the likelihood that your husband may feel that you are cheating on him. Also, it could cause similar problems for him if he is married, or scare off potential dates for him if he is single and your ';hanging out together'; is miscontrued.
It is possible to cheat on a marriage simply by having too close an emotional relationship with someone else.
If you want to maintain this relationship, then you should do it as couples. You can bring your husband, and he can bring his date or wife.
It would depend on how your husband feels about it. If he didn't like the idea, then I would respect that since it is a guy. Just put yourself in your husband's position and if you would feel weird about him seeing his best friend who is a woman. Me, if my husband had a best friend who was a woman, I don't think I would like it too much. It's just not something you should do. If you're married, I don't feel as though you should go out with the opposite sex unless your spouse is with you.
Nope, a married woman should be devoting that time to her marriage. Being friends is one thing but, spending that kind of time with another man such as movies, dinner and stuff just creates a bond and we all know where that leads. Even if it doesn't turn physical, it creates a emotional bond that should only be for her husband. When you get married, you're not suppose to continue dateing other people.
I think it is inappropriate for a man or woman to have personal private ';friendships'; with people of the opposite sex. What you describe is dating...that's called adultery.
EDIT* For the person that lacks the brain cells to make the connection in the dating aspect. You are SUPPOSED to have dinner and a movie with your husband! Unless you are a lesbian then it is not the same for a woman to have a girls get together. However if your hanging out with guys and just leaving your husband to galavant all over town with another man....that's just whorish. Didn't your mother teach you some dignity and class?
It does not have to be complicated.
Two things when people get married or dating someone:
TRUST.....aaaaaaaaaand
FEELING SECURE
If the person you are married to has a problem with you having guy friends, then he is insecure and not trusting.
I feel like this: as long as the married person is faithful, then that person should not be told they can't have friends of opposite gender. If the marriage was truly meant to be, then NO ONE can get in the way of it, NO ONE! And if the friend wants more than platonic friendship, then it is up to the married person to put an end to the friendship.
See, it's interesting people have a problem with friends of the opposite gender and call it emotional cheating, yet it is considered acceptable to drool or dream or fantasize about a celeb or famous person just because you're not likely to meet them. It's ok for guys to see strippers and watch porn, but that's not considered emotional cheating.
TRUE emotional cheating is when you desire someone else than who you have, when you have true romantic or sexual feelings for another person. That includes famous people, porn people, and strippers. And as long as you are not giving your husband an honest reason to believe you would cheat on him in the slightest way, then it's his problem if he's insecure about it or don't trust you.
When I find Mr. Right, I'm going to be up front and tell him I'm keeping my guy friends. If he has a problem, then we just can't be together. My guy friends are not romantically interested in me, and I'm not romantically interested in them. If I was, I would get rid of those feelings BEFORE dating someone. I will not be told I am wrong for keeping guys who I am NOTHING more than friends with. And as long as I have no reason to believe he would cheat on me, my future guy, I would not have any problems with him having his female friends, even if he's friends with his exes. If he has kids, I would want him to be on good terms with the kids' mother if that can happen. If we're meant to be, his female friends cannot tear us apart.
As long as you two don't have feelings for each other, it won't get complex. But if he starts to have feelings for you, then either end the friendship, or let him know to stay friends, he must stay within the boundaries.
Edit: If going to the movies or having lunch with a platonic opposite gender is considered dating, then that would same hold true for same-gender friends! DATING is not just simply hanging out; DATING is when you have the intentions to see where and if things can go somewhere ROMANTICALLY!
(no honest, not shouting: I'm emphasizing!)
My two best freinds from high school are guys. We have been friends for many years and still are. We use to live with one of them when me and my husband first got together. It kind of botherd him at first. But he has seen that we truly have no intrest in eachother in any way but friends. If we wanted more than that we could have had it a long time ago. I use to go out to lunch and things sometimes with on or the other or both of them and it was ok with him. Now we all go out together or they come over and we all hang out. They have girlfriends to and they are pretty cool with it. They really are more like brothers than anything eles. My one friend interduces me to people as his older sister.
it get complicated!! i am married and now me and my husband are going through probs not that we don't trust each other its just that after awhile things get complicated with your befriend cause you get closer and then there the feelings of what if i wasn't married what could have been and all that.. and it cause you to push away from your husband..and trust me even though you are thinking it wont happened minds do tend to wonder sometimes..
I don't see why it WOULD be a problem, but since there COULD be a problem, I avoid it. I have guy 'friends' that I see when I go shopping or around when I'm out and about but I just say hi, maybe have a 5 - 10 minute conversation and that's about it. I have a couple of online guy friends that I've had since highschool that I talk to a few times a week. My husband is a little apprehensive, but I keep all my history and he's free to read it. I personally think that it would get to complicated, but some people seem to do it and do it well. I just like to avoid possible problems myself. Do what you and your partner are comfortable with.
I thought your husband was suppose to be your best friend and you were suppose to do all those things with him??
You know I have very good guy friends that I have had for some a few decades and my husband knows of these guys and is not jealous..but the things you listed...to me those things..I enjoy doing with my husband....And you tell your best friend everything..good bad ugly...whatever the case may be..but whats the point in having a husband if everyone knows your business ??
I have as many male best friends as I do women best friends, but we don't do the lunch and movie things. it strictly friend ship. like a brother and sister, we even get mad at one another like a brother and sister. and we work it out like a brother and sister.There some people you get to know and learn to love them as family. But these friends know that this is not an attraction, but true friendship and there is a very big differences. God bless.
Depends on the kind of mind-set you and your husband have. I have 2 guy friends that are my BEST friends and have been since we were kids. I've known one since I was 8, and the other since I was 11. Not to mention my roommate all through college was a guy, and this is while my husband and I were dating. Some people are real worried about that kind of stuff, but we aren't. And, yes, he has a few chick friends.
I dunno, perhaps we are the odd men out, so to speak. But, I can't imagine either of us ever caring about the gender of friends. I've gone out of town and spent the night a some of my guy friend's houses, and he doesn't mind. He trusts me, as well he should.
Not really. Think about it the other way around...do you want your hubby hanging out with some girl? There would be jealousy issues, and honestly, it's just not appropriate to hang out a lot with a male that isn't your husband, or a relative. I mean, a drink after work to catch up or something is okay, but not all the time.
I have a best friend, named Jason. Known him for years. We go out all the time. My hubby is just fine with it. And plus, my hubby knows that I am, and always will be faithful to him-completely. Heck, Jason AND my hubby were in the delivery room when three of my kids were born. Hehe, got pics to prove it!!! Jason and I are not is any way like attracted to each other. Yes, he's single, a divorced Dad of three. I am totally in love with my hubby, and would never do anything with Jason that I would not do with my Mom. hehe...he is a great friend...love Jason like a brother and Matt (my hubby) like, well, my husband! So, yes, maybe for some people it could get complicated, but it works out of us....
~Kate, mommy of six, and 16 weeks with Abigail and Ty!!!!
Of course.
Some women can make the distinction between sex and friends, and can actually keep our pants on.
I have many male friends, and share many of my husbands friends. If I wanted to go to a movie, why shouldn't I take a friend?
Just because some of you women have no self control, doesn't mean no-one can't go out with someone else without having sex.
If you and your spouse are comfortable with it I don't see why not as long as there wont be jealousy you should be good....I have the same thing w/ my husband...I just get along with men better they have less mood swings and are more predictable I like that in a friend.
When I got married, I tried to keep my guy friends but my husband just didnt understand. He didnt say to stop talking to them, but I know he wondered. I e-mail them, but never hang out with them anymore. My husband means more to me and I dont want to jeopardize our marriage.
depends if you always had a friendship with this person, or would it seem to your new partner that you were ';dating'; again.
if you want to do these things and your partner doesnt just explain that you will do them with a friend and let him has his time with his friends.
I don't think so... I've never seen it work before and it does get complicated... Unless you can group date with your husband there too, then I would avoid it altogether, for the sake of the marraige.
Yes I think it shows true friendship..also having friends of the opposite sex does not mean that they are playing around. Some of my best friends are male and they also get along with my husband ..the same goes for me ..
i honestly do not see any thing wrong with it. i have female friends that i hang with. my wife does not get jealous or upset. i always come home
It can get complicated very easily, if you let it.
That would be weird. Would you want your husband going to dinner and movies with another female?
yeah if you guys dont flirt and like each other than it would be ok but kinda akwoard 2:)
its totally inaproprate...you should never be alone with another man.
maybe , if he's gay.
Wow I can't believe that so many people have a problem with this. He has been a best friend since 6th grade. At first my husband did get jealous and I had to just only hang out with him once in a wile. After a few years of knowing him and after most of my friends in general just stopped hanging out with me, moved away, or just are too busy my friend started coming around a little more again. I would mostly tell him I was busy and only hang out with him once in a wile. Finally one day my husband asked me why I am always telling my friend I am busy when I am not. I was suprised and said I thought it bothered him. He said ';well it did at first but I know you are just friends and I am not a little boy anymore. I don't care if you guys hang out. I was just being a jealous guy. You don't have a lot of friends so you need to hang on to the ones you have.'; I was really happy because he just so happened to move really close by. Now for years we hang out all the time and my husband doesn't care at all. I guess it probably helps that we both have kids and always do stuff with the whole bunch. My husband tells me he is happy that I have 1 good friend that stuck around. I don't have to feel insecure about it anymore and I have someone with something in common with me to do things with. I would always choose my husband over anyone and would never cancel family plans for any freind of any sex. My husband has a girl from work that hang out a little but I am not worried and it helps that his brother is always there too, so it is more of a group thing. My guy friend has a girlfriend and has 2 kids and sometimes she hangs out with us too. Not always though. We go to the pool or the beach, the park, and sometimes just stay home and order food or things like that. I am glad I have such a great husband that I don't have to wreck a great friendship over it. I do think it is wrong though when people start to hang out withtheir friends momre than their husband, no matter what the sex, and it would really make me wonder if it was a guy. Now I feel really lucky to have my husband after reading some of the responses, although if my husband was a really jealous guy I would not ruin my marraige over it but I would be really crushed to loose such a great friend. Good friends are hard to come by, no matter the sex.
Why would anyone give a thumbs down to someone who says that it works fine for them? Many people have friends that are of the opposite sex. How about this... one of my guy friends is my husbands brother. Would that be acceptable or what? That is my movie and dinner type parteneer. Hey I don't have the money to pay a babysitter for my occational breaks out of the house so my husband and I take turns. No harm, I only have eyes for my husband and he knows that.
In my case the shoe is on the other foot...I'm the single one and one of my Dearest and Closest Most Loved friends is a married man....my sons Ex-Football Coach...I Love Him with all of my heart and we have a great time together...he is 10 years younger and I look upon him as the little brother I never had...He gets more flirtatious at times and I just laugh ...in these kind of relationships one of you definitely has to keep your wits about you or it can turn in the Wrong direction...Is it possible to have a normal best friend relationship with a guy if you are a married woman?
No. Your ';best friend'; should be your husband.
It is not a good idea to spend a lot of time alone with a man who is not your husband. There are several potential problems, such as the likelihood of sexual undercurrents in the relationship and the likelihood that your husband may feel that you are cheating on him. Also, it could cause similar problems for him if he is married, or scare off potential dates for him if he is single and your ';hanging out together'; is miscontrued.
It is possible to cheat on a marriage simply by having too close an emotional relationship with someone else.
If you want to maintain this relationship, then you should do it as couples. You can bring your husband, and he can bring his date or wife.
It would depend on how your husband feels about it. If he didn't like the idea, then I would respect that since it is a guy. Just put yourself in your husband's position and if you would feel weird about him seeing his best friend who is a woman. Me, if my husband had a best friend who was a woman, I don't think I would like it too much. It's just not something you should do. If you're married, I don't feel as though you should go out with the opposite sex unless your spouse is with you.
Nope, a married woman should be devoting that time to her marriage. Being friends is one thing but, spending that kind of time with another man such as movies, dinner and stuff just creates a bond and we all know where that leads. Even if it doesn't turn physical, it creates a emotional bond that should only be for her husband. When you get married, you're not suppose to continue dateing other people.
I think it is inappropriate for a man or woman to have personal private ';friendships'; with people of the opposite sex. What you describe is dating...that's called adultery.
EDIT* For the person that lacks the brain cells to make the connection in the dating aspect. You are SUPPOSED to have dinner and a movie with your husband! Unless you are a lesbian then it is not the same for a woman to have a girls get together. However if your hanging out with guys and just leaving your husband to galavant all over town with another man....that's just whorish. Didn't your mother teach you some dignity and class?
It does not have to be complicated.
Two things when people get married or dating someone:
TRUST.....aaaaaaaaaand
FEELING SECURE
If the person you are married to has a problem with you having guy friends, then he is insecure and not trusting.
I feel like this: as long as the married person is faithful, then that person should not be told they can't have friends of opposite gender. If the marriage was truly meant to be, then NO ONE can get in the way of it, NO ONE! And if the friend wants more than platonic friendship, then it is up to the married person to put an end to the friendship.
See, it's interesting people have a problem with friends of the opposite gender and call it emotional cheating, yet it is considered acceptable to drool or dream or fantasize about a celeb or famous person just because you're not likely to meet them. It's ok for guys to see strippers and watch porn, but that's not considered emotional cheating.
TRUE emotional cheating is when you desire someone else than who you have, when you have true romantic or sexual feelings for another person. That includes famous people, porn people, and strippers. And as long as you are not giving your husband an honest reason to believe you would cheat on him in the slightest way, then it's his problem if he's insecure about it or don't trust you.
When I find Mr. Right, I'm going to be up front and tell him I'm keeping my guy friends. If he has a problem, then we just can't be together. My guy friends are not romantically interested in me, and I'm not romantically interested in them. If I was, I would get rid of those feelings BEFORE dating someone. I will not be told I am wrong for keeping guys who I am NOTHING more than friends with. And as long as I have no reason to believe he would cheat on me, my future guy, I would not have any problems with him having his female friends, even if he's friends with his exes. If he has kids, I would want him to be on good terms with the kids' mother if that can happen. If we're meant to be, his female friends cannot tear us apart.
As long as you two don't have feelings for each other, it won't get complex. But if he starts to have feelings for you, then either end the friendship, or let him know to stay friends, he must stay within the boundaries.
Edit: If going to the movies or having lunch with a platonic opposite gender is considered dating, then that would same hold true for same-gender friends! DATING is not just simply hanging out; DATING is when you have the intentions to see where and if things can go somewhere ROMANTICALLY!
(no honest, not shouting: I'm emphasizing!)
My two best freinds from high school are guys. We have been friends for many years and still are. We use to live with one of them when me and my husband first got together. It kind of botherd him at first. But he has seen that we truly have no intrest in eachother in any way but friends. If we wanted more than that we could have had it a long time ago. I use to go out to lunch and things sometimes with on or the other or both of them and it was ok with him. Now we all go out together or they come over and we all hang out. They have girlfriends to and they are pretty cool with it. They really are more like brothers than anything eles. My one friend interduces me to people as his older sister.
it get complicated!! i am married and now me and my husband are going through probs not that we don't trust each other its just that after awhile things get complicated with your befriend cause you get closer and then there the feelings of what if i wasn't married what could have been and all that.. and it cause you to push away from your husband..and trust me even though you are thinking it wont happened minds do tend to wonder sometimes..
I don't see why it WOULD be a problem, but since there COULD be a problem, I avoid it. I have guy 'friends' that I see when I go shopping or around when I'm out and about but I just say hi, maybe have a 5 - 10 minute conversation and that's about it. I have a couple of online guy friends that I've had since highschool that I talk to a few times a week. My husband is a little apprehensive, but I keep all my history and he's free to read it. I personally think that it would get to complicated, but some people seem to do it and do it well. I just like to avoid possible problems myself. Do what you and your partner are comfortable with.
I thought your husband was suppose to be your best friend and you were suppose to do all those things with him??
You know I have very good guy friends that I have had for some a few decades and my husband knows of these guys and is not jealous..but the things you listed...to me those things..I enjoy doing with my husband....And you tell your best friend everything..good bad ugly...whatever the case may be..but whats the point in having a husband if everyone knows your business ??
I have as many male best friends as I do women best friends, but we don't do the lunch and movie things. it strictly friend ship. like a brother and sister, we even get mad at one another like a brother and sister. and we work it out like a brother and sister.There some people you get to know and learn to love them as family. But these friends know that this is not an attraction, but true friendship and there is a very big differences. God bless.
Depends on the kind of mind-set you and your husband have. I have 2 guy friends that are my BEST friends and have been since we were kids. I've known one since I was 8, and the other since I was 11. Not to mention my roommate all through college was a guy, and this is while my husband and I were dating. Some people are real worried about that kind of stuff, but we aren't. And, yes, he has a few chick friends.
I dunno, perhaps we are the odd men out, so to speak. But, I can't imagine either of us ever caring about the gender of friends. I've gone out of town and spent the night a some of my guy friend's houses, and he doesn't mind. He trusts me, as well he should.
Not really. Think about it the other way around...do you want your hubby hanging out with some girl? There would be jealousy issues, and honestly, it's just not appropriate to hang out a lot with a male that isn't your husband, or a relative. I mean, a drink after work to catch up or something is okay, but not all the time.
I have a best friend, named Jason. Known him for years. We go out all the time. My hubby is just fine with it. And plus, my hubby knows that I am, and always will be faithful to him-completely. Heck, Jason AND my hubby were in the delivery room when three of my kids were born. Hehe, got pics to prove it!!! Jason and I are not is any way like attracted to each other. Yes, he's single, a divorced Dad of three. I am totally in love with my hubby, and would never do anything with Jason that I would not do with my Mom. hehe...he is a great friend...love Jason like a brother and Matt (my hubby) like, well, my husband! So, yes, maybe for some people it could get complicated, but it works out of us....
~Kate, mommy of six, and 16 weeks with Abigail and Ty!!!!
Of course.
Some women can make the distinction between sex and friends, and can actually keep our pants on.
I have many male friends, and share many of my husbands friends. If I wanted to go to a movie, why shouldn't I take a friend?
Just because some of you women have no self control, doesn't mean no-one can't go out with someone else without having sex.
If you and your spouse are comfortable with it I don't see why not as long as there wont be jealousy you should be good....I have the same thing w/ my husband...I just get along with men better they have less mood swings and are more predictable I like that in a friend.
When I got married, I tried to keep my guy friends but my husband just didnt understand. He didnt say to stop talking to them, but I know he wondered. I e-mail them, but never hang out with them anymore. My husband means more to me and I dont want to jeopardize our marriage.
depends if you always had a friendship with this person, or would it seem to your new partner that you were ';dating'; again.
if you want to do these things and your partner doesnt just explain that you will do them with a friend and let him has his time with his friends.
I don't think so... I've never seen it work before and it does get complicated... Unless you can group date with your husband there too, then I would avoid it altogether, for the sake of the marraige.
Yes I think it shows true friendship..also having friends of the opposite sex does not mean that they are playing around. Some of my best friends are male and they also get along with my husband ..the same goes for me ..
i honestly do not see any thing wrong with it. i have female friends that i hang with. my wife does not get jealous or upset. i always come home
It can get complicated very easily, if you let it.
That would be weird. Would you want your husband going to dinner and movies with another female?
yeah if you guys dont flirt and like each other than it would be ok but kinda akwoard 2:)
its totally inaproprate...you should never be alone with another man.
maybe , if he's gay.
Wow I can't believe that so many people have a problem with this. He has been a best friend since 6th grade. At first my husband did get jealous and I had to just only hang out with him once in a wile. After a few years of knowing him and after most of my friends in general just stopped hanging out with me, moved away, or just are too busy my friend started coming around a little more again. I would mostly tell him I was busy and only hang out with him once in a wile. Finally one day my husband asked me why I am always telling my friend I am busy when I am not. I was suprised and said I thought it bothered him. He said ';well it did at first but I know you are just friends and I am not a little boy anymore. I don't care if you guys hang out. I was just being a jealous guy. You don't have a lot of friends so you need to hang on to the ones you have.'; I was really happy because he just so happened to move really close by. Now for years we hang out all the time and my husband doesn't care at all. I guess it probably helps that we both have kids and always do stuff with the whole bunch. My husband tells me he is happy that I have 1 good friend that stuck around. I don't have to feel insecure about it anymore and I have someone with something in common with me to do things with. I would always choose my husband over anyone and would never cancel family plans for any freind of any sex. My husband has a girl from work that hang out a little but I am not worried and it helps that his brother is always there too, so it is more of a group thing. My guy friend has a girlfriend and has 2 kids and sometimes she hangs out with us too. Not always though. We go to the pool or the beach, the park, and sometimes just stay home and order food or things like that. I am glad I have such a great husband that I don't have to wreck a great friendship over it. I do think it is wrong though when people start to hang out withtheir friends momre than their husband, no matter what the sex, and it would really make me wonder if it was a guy. Now I feel really lucky to have my husband after reading some of the responses, although if my husband was a really jealous guy I would not ruin my marraige over it but I would be really crushed to loose such a great friend. Good friends are hard to come by, no matter the sex.
Why would anyone give a thumbs down to someone who says that it works fine for them? Many people have friends that are of the opposite sex. How about this... one of my guy friends is my husbands brother. Would that be acceptable or what? That is my movie and dinner type parteneer. Hey I don't have the money to pay a babysitter for my occational breaks out of the house so my husband and I take turns. No harm, I only have eyes for my husband and he knows that.
Was it ever illegal for black people to get married in the USA?
Since the United States was formed, was there ever a time when African Americans couldn't marry either each other or white people? I've heard this several times over but can't seem to find any evidence laying around on the internet. Can someone provide both an answer and some links?Was it ever illegal for black people to get married in the USA?
Slaves were not allowed to marry in many states, hence the tradition of jumping the broom. In the states where they were, their vows did not include ';till death do us part.'; They could only vow ';until death or circumstances separate us'; as they could always be sold away from one another.
Interracial marriages were forbidden in many states, until the Supreme Court ruled that those laws were unconstitutional by way of ';Loving vs. Virginia.'; The Lovings were an interracial couple who were jailed for being married. They were released but told they couldn't live in Virginia. They sued and won.Was it ever illegal for black people to get married in the USA?
Absolutely. Initially there was no need to create laws stating that black people couldn't marry each other; the laws establishing black people as chattel (the same as cows or dogs, for example) rendered the issue of marriage moot. Religious ceremonies (either Christian or of the slaves' own design) were routinely ignored, and civil ceremonies were neither conducted nor sanctioned by the existing laws. No court would even consider such a case.
Then, of course, life got complicated as freed black people tried to use the social and civic constructs available to the citizenry. You would have to find evidence of divorces with property distribution and probate of wills due to death of a spouse to find any traces of black marriage. I don't think you'll find much at all before the end of chattel slavery.
After the end of slavery, you will find laws prohibiting marriage between blacks and whites among state laws in at least 2/3 of the states.
Yes, it was not legal to marry a black person up till I think about the 1960's, mid to late.
I don't know if it was always legal for blacks to marry, but maybe when slaves were considered property there might have been laws to prevent marriage between black people.
Anti-miscegenation laws, also known as miscegenation laws, were laws that banned interracial marriage and sometimes interracial sex between whites and members of other races. In the United States, interracial marriage, cohabitation and sex have since 1863 been termed ';miscegenation.'; Contemporary usage of the term ';miscegenation'; is less frequent. In North America, laws against interracial marriage and interracial sex existed and were enforced in the Thirteen Colonies from the late seventeenth century onwards, and subsequently in several US states and US territories until 1967. Similar laws were also enforced in Nazi Germany, from 1935 until 1945, and in South Africa during the Apartheid era, from 1949 until 1985.[1]
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On the night of July 13, 1958, Richard and Mildred Loving(how appropriate) were asleep in their home in Central Point, a tiny village in rural Virginia. The Lovings were newlyweds, having been married in Washington, D.C., just five weeks earlier. However, the peace of the country night was broken when Sheriff Garnett Brooks and two deputies arrived at the Loving's home at 2:00 a.m.
The 3 officers of the law threw open the unlocked door, and made their way to Richard and Mildred's bedroom. The noise made by the men and the light from three flashlights woke the Lovings from their sound sleep. Mr. and Mrs. Loving were placed under arrest. Richard Perry Loving and Mildred Jeter Loving were arrested for committing a felony, a serious kind of crime. Husband and wife were brought to the county jail, where they stayed for five days. Richard Loving was a white man his wife-Mildred was part African american and part indian. In 1958 in VA there was a state law that made it a crime for a white person to marry a person of color. Similar laws were in force in fifteen other states: Alabama, Arkansas, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, Missouri, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, and West VA.
Virginia was so serious about enforcing its laws that an interracial couple could be sentenced to one to five years in prison.
hope this helps, the following book was one I picked up for one of my law classes. It is a great book that talks about the Lovings' case in particular but also when the laws against interracial marriages began and much more. it also has pictures of the couple and those who helped fight against such laws.
http://www.law.umkc.edu/faculty/projects…
During the slavery era, slaves were allowed to marry with the permission of their masters. However, the marriages were often broken up when someone was sold. There weren't laws preventing marriage since the slave owners encouraged slaves to have children. They wanted more children because the child of a slave woman was a slave.
There were laws that prevented interracial marriage. These laws were made to enforce segregation.
There was a time in colonial days when some whites weren't allowed to marry. Indentured servants (whites from Europe) weren't allowed to marry as long as they were still ';owned';.
It has never been illegal for black people to marry in the US.
During the time that slavery was legal, a slave needed his or her owners permission to marry.
In several US States there were ';miscegenation'; laws that prohibbitted people of different races from intermarrying. There was never a *US* law against it though - only State laws.
Richard
Of course. Slaves couldn't get married of course. During Jim Crow laws, blacks could not marry whites. The last of these laws were struck down in the 1060s, I believe in a Louisiana case. If you were 1/64th black, you were considered black and couldn't marry a white person.
you mean during slavery times when it was illegal for a black slave to marry another black slave without the master's permission? i'll search for links
http://www.houstonculture.org/spanish/sl…
Yes interracial marriage was illegal in some states...
http://www.answers.com/topic/miscegenati…
http://www.cnn.com/US/9903/12/interracia…
http://speakout.com/activism/opinions/32…
I have heard that they weren't allowed to marry white people, this used to be a big sin and people were murdered for it. However, I think that they were always allowed to marry other black people.
In some areas of the U.S. it was restricted before the Civil War. You can't stop a human from loving someone.
I'm married, but I don't need a ';ring'; to validate it.
Inter-racial marriage (or relationships) were illegal - I don't know about African Americans marrying each other, though.
Um no but some states don't allows gays to marry. Idk why,they are people too
Black people could always marry ... other black people.
Slaves were not allowed to marry in many states, hence the tradition of jumping the broom. In the states where they were, their vows did not include ';till death do us part.'; They could only vow ';until death or circumstances separate us'; as they could always be sold away from one another.
Interracial marriages were forbidden in many states, until the Supreme Court ruled that those laws were unconstitutional by way of ';Loving vs. Virginia.'; The Lovings were an interracial couple who were jailed for being married. They were released but told they couldn't live in Virginia. They sued and won.Was it ever illegal for black people to get married in the USA?
Absolutely. Initially there was no need to create laws stating that black people couldn't marry each other; the laws establishing black people as chattel (the same as cows or dogs, for example) rendered the issue of marriage moot. Religious ceremonies (either Christian or of the slaves' own design) were routinely ignored, and civil ceremonies were neither conducted nor sanctioned by the existing laws. No court would even consider such a case.
Then, of course, life got complicated as freed black people tried to use the social and civic constructs available to the citizenry. You would have to find evidence of divorces with property distribution and probate of wills due to death of a spouse to find any traces of black marriage. I don't think you'll find much at all before the end of chattel slavery.
After the end of slavery, you will find laws prohibiting marriage between blacks and whites among state laws in at least 2/3 of the states.
Yes, it was not legal to marry a black person up till I think about the 1960's, mid to late.
I don't know if it was always legal for blacks to marry, but maybe when slaves were considered property there might have been laws to prevent marriage between black people.
Anti-miscegenation laws, also known as miscegenation laws, were laws that banned interracial marriage and sometimes interracial sex between whites and members of other races. In the United States, interracial marriage, cohabitation and sex have since 1863 been termed ';miscegenation.'; Contemporary usage of the term ';miscegenation'; is less frequent. In North America, laws against interracial marriage and interracial sex existed and were enforced in the Thirteen Colonies from the late seventeenth century onwards, and subsequently in several US states and US territories until 1967. Similar laws were also enforced in Nazi Germany, from 1935 until 1945, and in South Africa during the Apartheid era, from 1949 until 1985.[1]
Good Luck
On the night of July 13, 1958, Richard and Mildred Loving(how appropriate) were asleep in their home in Central Point, a tiny village in rural Virginia. The Lovings were newlyweds, having been married in Washington, D.C., just five weeks earlier. However, the peace of the country night was broken when Sheriff Garnett Brooks and two deputies arrived at the Loving's home at 2:00 a.m.
The 3 officers of the law threw open the unlocked door, and made their way to Richard and Mildred's bedroom. The noise made by the men and the light from three flashlights woke the Lovings from their sound sleep. Mr. and Mrs. Loving were placed under arrest. Richard Perry Loving and Mildred Jeter Loving were arrested for committing a felony, a serious kind of crime. Husband and wife were brought to the county jail, where they stayed for five days. Richard Loving was a white man his wife-Mildred was part African american and part indian. In 1958 in VA there was a state law that made it a crime for a white person to marry a person of color. Similar laws were in force in fifteen other states: Alabama, Arkansas, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, Missouri, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, and West VA.
Virginia was so serious about enforcing its laws that an interracial couple could be sentenced to one to five years in prison.
hope this helps, the following book was one I picked up for one of my law classes. It is a great book that talks about the Lovings' case in particular but also when the laws against interracial marriages began and much more. it also has pictures of the couple and those who helped fight against such laws.
http://www.law.umkc.edu/faculty/projects…
During the slavery era, slaves were allowed to marry with the permission of their masters. However, the marriages were often broken up when someone was sold. There weren't laws preventing marriage since the slave owners encouraged slaves to have children. They wanted more children because the child of a slave woman was a slave.
There were laws that prevented interracial marriage. These laws were made to enforce segregation.
There was a time in colonial days when some whites weren't allowed to marry. Indentured servants (whites from Europe) weren't allowed to marry as long as they were still ';owned';.
It has never been illegal for black people to marry in the US.
During the time that slavery was legal, a slave needed his or her owners permission to marry.
In several US States there were ';miscegenation'; laws that prohibbitted people of different races from intermarrying. There was never a *US* law against it though - only State laws.
Richard
Of course. Slaves couldn't get married of course. During Jim Crow laws, blacks could not marry whites. The last of these laws were struck down in the 1060s, I believe in a Louisiana case. If you were 1/64th black, you were considered black and couldn't marry a white person.
you mean during slavery times when it was illegal for a black slave to marry another black slave without the master's permission? i'll search for links
http://www.houstonculture.org/spanish/sl…
Yes interracial marriage was illegal in some states...
http://www.answers.com/topic/miscegenati…
http://www.cnn.com/US/9903/12/interracia…
http://speakout.com/activism/opinions/32…
I have heard that they weren't allowed to marry white people, this used to be a big sin and people were murdered for it. However, I think that they were always allowed to marry other black people.
In some areas of the U.S. it was restricted before the Civil War. You can't stop a human from loving someone.
I'm married, but I don't need a ';ring'; to validate it.
Inter-racial marriage (or relationships) were illegal - I don't know about African Americans marrying each other, though.
Um no but some states don't allows gays to marry. Idk why,they are people too
Black people could always marry ... other black people.
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