Is it possible to have a normal best friend relationship with a guy if you are a married woman?

And still hang out together, go out to lunch sometimes, see movies, etc.?Or does it just get to complicated?Is it possible to have a normal best friend relationship with a guy if you are a married woman?
In my case the shoe is on the other foot...I'm the single one and one of my Dearest and Closest Most Loved friends is a married man....my sons Ex-Football Coach...I Love Him with all of my heart and we have a great time together...he is 10 years younger and I look upon him as the little brother I never had...He gets more flirtatious at times and I just laugh ...in these kind of relationships one of you definitely has to keep your wits about you or it can turn in the Wrong direction...Is it possible to have a normal best friend relationship with a guy if you are a married woman?
No. Your ';best friend'; should be your husband.





It is not a good idea to spend a lot of time alone with a man who is not your husband. There are several potential problems, such as the likelihood of sexual undercurrents in the relationship and the likelihood that your husband may feel that you are cheating on him. Also, it could cause similar problems for him if he is married, or scare off potential dates for him if he is single and your ';hanging out together'; is miscontrued.





It is possible to cheat on a marriage simply by having too close an emotional relationship with someone else.





If you want to maintain this relationship, then you should do it as couples. You can bring your husband, and he can bring his date or wife.
It would depend on how your husband feels about it. If he didn't like the idea, then I would respect that since it is a guy. Just put yourself in your husband's position and if you would feel weird about him seeing his best friend who is a woman. Me, if my husband had a best friend who was a woman, I don't think I would like it too much. It's just not something you should do. If you're married, I don't feel as though you should go out with the opposite sex unless your spouse is with you.
Nope, a married woman should be devoting that time to her marriage. Being friends is one thing but, spending that kind of time with another man such as movies, dinner and stuff just creates a bond and we all know where that leads. Even if it doesn't turn physical, it creates a emotional bond that should only be for her husband. When you get married, you're not suppose to continue dateing other people.
I think it is inappropriate for a man or woman to have personal private ';friendships'; with people of the opposite sex. What you describe is dating...that's called adultery.





EDIT* For the person that lacks the brain cells to make the connection in the dating aspect. You are SUPPOSED to have dinner and a movie with your husband! Unless you are a lesbian then it is not the same for a woman to have a girls get together. However if your hanging out with guys and just leaving your husband to galavant all over town with another man....that's just whorish. Didn't your mother teach you some dignity and class?
It does not have to be complicated.





Two things when people get married or dating someone:


TRUST.....aaaaaaaaaand


FEELING SECURE





If the person you are married to has a problem with you having guy friends, then he is insecure and not trusting.





I feel like this: as long as the married person is faithful, then that person should not be told they can't have friends of opposite gender. If the marriage was truly meant to be, then NO ONE can get in the way of it, NO ONE! And if the friend wants more than platonic friendship, then it is up to the married person to put an end to the friendship.





See, it's interesting people have a problem with friends of the opposite gender and call it emotional cheating, yet it is considered acceptable to drool or dream or fantasize about a celeb or famous person just because you're not likely to meet them. It's ok for guys to see strippers and watch porn, but that's not considered emotional cheating.





TRUE emotional cheating is when you desire someone else than who you have, when you have true romantic or sexual feelings for another person. That includes famous people, porn people, and strippers. And as long as you are not giving your husband an honest reason to believe you would cheat on him in the slightest way, then it's his problem if he's insecure about it or don't trust you.





When I find Mr. Right, I'm going to be up front and tell him I'm keeping my guy friends. If he has a problem, then we just can't be together. My guy friends are not romantically interested in me, and I'm not romantically interested in them. If I was, I would get rid of those feelings BEFORE dating someone. I will not be told I am wrong for keeping guys who I am NOTHING more than friends with. And as long as I have no reason to believe he would cheat on me, my future guy, I would not have any problems with him having his female friends, even if he's friends with his exes. If he has kids, I would want him to be on good terms with the kids' mother if that can happen. If we're meant to be, his female friends cannot tear us apart.





As long as you two don't have feelings for each other, it won't get complex. But if he starts to have feelings for you, then either end the friendship, or let him know to stay friends, he must stay within the boundaries.





Edit: If going to the movies or having lunch with a platonic opposite gender is considered dating, then that would same hold true for same-gender friends! DATING is not just simply hanging out; DATING is when you have the intentions to see where and if things can go somewhere ROMANTICALLY!





(no honest, not shouting: I'm emphasizing!)
My two best freinds from high school are guys. We have been friends for many years and still are. We use to live with one of them when me and my husband first got together. It kind of botherd him at first. But he has seen that we truly have no intrest in eachother in any way but friends. If we wanted more than that we could have had it a long time ago. I use to go out to lunch and things sometimes with on or the other or both of them and it was ok with him. Now we all go out together or they come over and we all hang out. They have girlfriends to and they are pretty cool with it. They really are more like brothers than anything eles. My one friend interduces me to people as his older sister.
it get complicated!! i am married and now me and my husband are going through probs not that we don't trust each other its just that after awhile things get complicated with your befriend cause you get closer and then there the feelings of what if i wasn't married what could have been and all that.. and it cause you to push away from your husband..and trust me even though you are thinking it wont happened minds do tend to wonder sometimes..
I don't see why it WOULD be a problem, but since there COULD be a problem, I avoid it. I have guy 'friends' that I see when I go shopping or around when I'm out and about but I just say hi, maybe have a 5 - 10 minute conversation and that's about it. I have a couple of online guy friends that I've had since highschool that I talk to a few times a week. My husband is a little apprehensive, but I keep all my history and he's free to read it. I personally think that it would get to complicated, but some people seem to do it and do it well. I just like to avoid possible problems myself. Do what you and your partner are comfortable with.
I thought your husband was suppose to be your best friend and you were suppose to do all those things with him??


You know I have very good guy friends that I have had for some a few decades and my husband knows of these guys and is not jealous..but the things you listed...to me those things..I enjoy doing with my husband....And you tell your best friend everything..good bad ugly...whatever the case may be..but whats the point in having a husband if everyone knows your business ??
I have as many male best friends as I do women best friends, but we don't do the lunch and movie things. it strictly friend ship. like a brother and sister, we even get mad at one another like a brother and sister. and we work it out like a brother and sister.There some people you get to know and learn to love them as family. But these friends know that this is not an attraction, but true friendship and there is a very big differences. God bless.
Depends on the kind of mind-set you and your husband have. I have 2 guy friends that are my BEST friends and have been since we were kids. I've known one since I was 8, and the other since I was 11. Not to mention my roommate all through college was a guy, and this is while my husband and I were dating. Some people are real worried about that kind of stuff, but we aren't. And, yes, he has a few chick friends.





I dunno, perhaps we are the odd men out, so to speak. But, I can't imagine either of us ever caring about the gender of friends. I've gone out of town and spent the night a some of my guy friend's houses, and he doesn't mind. He trusts me, as well he should.
Not really. Think about it the other way around...do you want your hubby hanging out with some girl? There would be jealousy issues, and honestly, it's just not appropriate to hang out a lot with a male that isn't your husband, or a relative. I mean, a drink after work to catch up or something is okay, but not all the time.
I have a best friend, named Jason. Known him for years. We go out all the time. My hubby is just fine with it. And plus, my hubby knows that I am, and always will be faithful to him-completely. Heck, Jason AND my hubby were in the delivery room when three of my kids were born. Hehe, got pics to prove it!!! Jason and I are not is any way like attracted to each other. Yes, he's single, a divorced Dad of three. I am totally in love with my hubby, and would never do anything with Jason that I would not do with my Mom. hehe...he is a great friend...love Jason like a brother and Matt (my hubby) like, well, my husband! So, yes, maybe for some people it could get complicated, but it works out of us....





~Kate, mommy of six, and 16 weeks with Abigail and Ty!!!!
Of course.





Some women can make the distinction between sex and friends, and can actually keep our pants on.





I have many male friends, and share many of my husbands friends. If I wanted to go to a movie, why shouldn't I take a friend?





Just because some of you women have no self control, doesn't mean no-one can't go out with someone else without having sex.
If you and your spouse are comfortable with it I don't see why not as long as there wont be jealousy you should be good....I have the same thing w/ my husband...I just get along with men better they have less mood swings and are more predictable I like that in a friend.
When I got married, I tried to keep my guy friends but my husband just didnt understand. He didnt say to stop talking to them, but I know he wondered. I e-mail them, but never hang out with them anymore. My husband means more to me and I dont want to jeopardize our marriage.
depends if you always had a friendship with this person, or would it seem to your new partner that you were ';dating'; again.


if you want to do these things and your partner doesnt just explain that you will do them with a friend and let him has his time with his friends.
I don't think so... I've never seen it work before and it does get complicated... Unless you can group date with your husband there too, then I would avoid it altogether, for the sake of the marraige.
Yes I think it shows true friendship..also having friends of the opposite sex does not mean that they are playing around. Some of my best friends are male and they also get along with my husband ..the same goes for me ..
i honestly do not see any thing wrong with it. i have female friends that i hang with. my wife does not get jealous or upset. i always come home
It can get complicated very easily, if you let it.
That would be weird. Would you want your husband going to dinner and movies with another female?
yeah if you guys dont flirt and like each other than it would be ok but kinda akwoard 2:)
its totally inaproprate...you should never be alone with another man.
maybe , if he's gay.
Wow I can't believe that so many people have a problem with this. He has been a best friend since 6th grade. At first my husband did get jealous and I had to just only hang out with him once in a wile. After a few years of knowing him and after most of my friends in general just stopped hanging out with me, moved away, or just are too busy my friend started coming around a little more again. I would mostly tell him I was busy and only hang out with him once in a wile. Finally one day my husband asked me why I am always telling my friend I am busy when I am not. I was suprised and said I thought it bothered him. He said ';well it did at first but I know you are just friends and I am not a little boy anymore. I don't care if you guys hang out. I was just being a jealous guy. You don't have a lot of friends so you need to hang on to the ones you have.'; I was really happy because he just so happened to move really close by. Now for years we hang out all the time and my husband doesn't care at all. I guess it probably helps that we both have kids and always do stuff with the whole bunch. My husband tells me he is happy that I have 1 good friend that stuck around. I don't have to feel insecure about it anymore and I have someone with something in common with me to do things with. I would always choose my husband over anyone and would never cancel family plans for any freind of any sex. My husband has a girl from work that hang out a little but I am not worried and it helps that his brother is always there too, so it is more of a group thing. My guy friend has a girlfriend and has 2 kids and sometimes she hangs out with us too. Not always though. We go to the pool or the beach, the park, and sometimes just stay home and order food or things like that. I am glad I have such a great husband that I don't have to wreck a great friendship over it. I do think it is wrong though when people start to hang out withtheir friends momre than their husband, no matter what the sex, and it would really make me wonder if it was a guy. Now I feel really lucky to have my husband after reading some of the responses, although if my husband was a really jealous guy I would not ruin my marraige over it but I would be really crushed to loose such a great friend. Good friends are hard to come by, no matter the sex.





Why would anyone give a thumbs down to someone who says that it works fine for them? Many people have friends that are of the opposite sex. How about this... one of my guy friends is my husbands brother. Would that be acceptable or what? That is my movie and dinner type parteneer. Hey I don't have the money to pay a babysitter for my occational breaks out of the house so my husband and I take turns. No harm, I only have eyes for my husband and he knows that.