My wife and I got married but didnt tell anyone. We are waiting another two years untill the families know. How does this work with taxes? She will be claimed as a dependent by her parents and I will file married and seperate but will her dad have to mark anywhere that she is married when claiming her? Do dependents have to mark if they are married or not? Would it matter?Does anyone have to know if she is married, filing taxes?
No, her dad won't have to mark anything, and if you file as married filing separately, then you'll be OK taxwise. If your wife files a return, she will also file as married filing separately but will not claim her own exemption. As long as you don't file a joint return, you're OK. If you DID file a joint return, then her dad could only claim her if neither of you had a filing requirement, and you were only filing to get your withholding back.
Just a side issue though: if you are old enough and mature enough to be married, you are old enough and mature enough to be honest about that with your families.Does anyone have to know if she is married, filing taxes?
Yes, the marital status of the child matters. The rules for dependents are different for married and nonmarried dependents.
Your wife cannot be claimed as a dependent if she has any filing requirement. If she is not required to file a tax return, and she does not file a joint return with you, she may be a dependent of her parents if she meets all other criteria for being a dependent.
It is also possible for a married child to file a joint return with her spouse and still be a dependent of her parents. This requires that both spouses have no filing requirement, which doesn't apply to you from your information.
You may file separately and have a filing requirement. This will not disqualify your spouse from being a dependent.
Her parents can ONLY claim her as a dependent if YOUR income AND hers are EACH less than the personal exemption amount, $3,400 for 2007. When you file your returns separately you must list your spouse's SSN on your separate return. If either of your incomes come up to more than $3,400, the dependency exemption on her parents' return will be disallowed. At the very least she must tell her parents that they may NOT claim her as a dependent. Whether she can do that without revealing the fact that you are now married is her (and your) problem.
i dont think so because i got married dec 18th of 2004 and my dad still claimed me as a dependent but then again it was only 2 weeks before the year ended but there's nothing on tax forms that asks if a dependent is married
As long as the same person is not claimed as a dependent on more than one return.
Saturday, August 21, 2010
How old was your Daughter when she got married a?
And had her first baby? My 27 year old has two kids and got married at 24 but my 32 year old isn't Married and she isn't dating...How old was your Daughter when she got married a?
I have two daughters my youngest just got married at 29 no kids. My oldest is 35 also not dating not everyone gets married or even wants to get married. I am more insterested if she is happy. If she is happy then thats all that matters to me.How old was your Daughter when she got married a?
My great grandomther's daughter was not quite 18 when her first daughter was born and the marriage followed soon after. Her daughter was 17 but had to wait out WWII before she had her first at 20, Her daughter didn't marry until 25 and had her first and only at 30 and her daughter is 32 with no ambitions along those lines even though she loves kids and has favorite ';Auntie'; status with several friends children and has worked as a nanny off and on since she was 19. Different strokes.
My daughter is 25 and is no where near marriage or children. She is far more interested in pursuing school, her career and freedom to have fun and spend her money on rediculous things and people. With the average person living to be close to 80, the rush to marry and reproduce is no longer an issue! Women can take their time. It is also possible that she is not interested in getting married OR having children. Maybe you should find out if there is something she needs to tell you about...
Kerrie Wheeler, LCPC
I'm not married, nor do I have children yet.
My mother was 18 when she had my brother, and 21 when she had me. (She never married our real father.) When she was 26, she married our stepfather.
One of my best friends got married at 17, then had her first baby at 19.
I'm 19, and engaged to my fiance, who just turned 23.
My daughter isn't here yet but I will answer for myself. I was 27, 1 week before my 28th birthday. I'm now 33 and have many friends my age who have never been married, a couple of which were recently engaged. (My mom was 20.)
Your two girls just seem to have different priorities. Nothing wrong with that, if she's happy being alone, then let her be. Please don't be one of those mothers who get to pushy
well personally I am 20 with a 10.5 month old son and not married...
point being is that every situationa nd person is different. let her be, if she is happy with it then that is great!
My daughter is only 3....my mom's daughter got married at 23...had her 1st baby at 29...and her 2nd at 31.
I married my wife when she was 21 and we had our first child 11 months later (22).
I have two daughters my youngest just got married at 29 no kids. My oldest is 35 also not dating not everyone gets married or even wants to get married. I am more insterested if she is happy. If she is happy then thats all that matters to me.How old was your Daughter when she got married a?
My great grandomther's daughter was not quite 18 when her first daughter was born and the marriage followed soon after. Her daughter was 17 but had to wait out WWII before she had her first at 20, Her daughter didn't marry until 25 and had her first and only at 30 and her daughter is 32 with no ambitions along those lines even though she loves kids and has favorite ';Auntie'; status with several friends children and has worked as a nanny off and on since she was 19. Different strokes.
My daughter is 25 and is no where near marriage or children. She is far more interested in pursuing school, her career and freedom to have fun and spend her money on rediculous things and people. With the average person living to be close to 80, the rush to marry and reproduce is no longer an issue! Women can take their time. It is also possible that she is not interested in getting married OR having children. Maybe you should find out if there is something she needs to tell you about...
Kerrie Wheeler, LCPC
I'm not married, nor do I have children yet.
My mother was 18 when she had my brother, and 21 when she had me. (She never married our real father.) When she was 26, she married our stepfather.
One of my best friends got married at 17, then had her first baby at 19.
I'm 19, and engaged to my fiance, who just turned 23.
My daughter isn't here yet but I will answer for myself. I was 27, 1 week before my 28th birthday. I'm now 33 and have many friends my age who have never been married, a couple of which were recently engaged. (My mom was 20.)
Your two girls just seem to have different priorities. Nothing wrong with that, if she's happy being alone, then let her be. Please don't be one of those mothers who get to pushy
well personally I am 20 with a 10.5 month old son and not married...
point being is that every situationa nd person is different. let her be, if she is happy with it then that is great!
My daughter is only 3....my mom's daughter got married at 23...had her 1st baby at 29...and her 2nd at 31.
I married my wife when she was 21 and we had our first child 11 months later (22).
Getting married in mexico, do i need more then one official copy of birth certificate?
I have one birth certificate for marriage in mexico at the registry office that has been apostilised, translated, notarized and certified, but would i need a second one done for any reason?Getting married in mexico, do i need more then one official copy of birth certificate?
Congratulations on your engagement! Here's what you need to know to make the marriage legal in the Federal District of Mexico City.
The following are the requirements for marriage in the Federal District (Mexico City). However, marriage requirements prevailing in the thirty-one states of Mexico are in general very similar to those of the Federal District.
Legal Requirements
Consent: People under the age of 18 may not get married in Mexico without parental consent. With parental consent, boys have to be at least 16 and girls need to be at least 14 years of age.
Foreigners Getting Married to Foreigners: You don't need to be resident in Mexico in order to get married there, you'll just need a passport and your tourist permit, plus some other paperwork (see below). If you plan to get married to a Mexican in Mexico, you will need additional documentation.
Chest X-rays and Blood Tests: hese must be done locally in Mexico, as the results of the blood tests and the X-ray documentation must be in Spanish and the tests need to be done within a certain time frame of the Marriage Application Form being completed. Not all states require the Chest X-rays. Check locally.
Four Witnesses: You will need to have 4 witnesses present at the legal ceremony, and they must have valid identification (Passport).
Validity Outside of Mexico: Your Marriage Certificate will be valid world-wide, BUT you should get your certificate 'legalised' in Mexico to ensure it is legally accepted when you get back home. The process is the reverse of getting your Native documentation legalised by the necessary authorities (e.g. Foreign Office) for marriage in Mexico (see below); The registry office in Mexico will tell you where this can be done locally.
Required Legal Documents
An American or other foreigner wishing to be married in Mexico must present to the appropriate Civil Registry certain documents described in the paragraphs below. All documents from the U.S., except for the valid U.S. passport, must be authenticated by an American authority (usually the Secretary of State), from the state where they originated, who attaches an ';Apostille'; to the documents listed below.
Important! ALL Foreign documents listed below (with the exception of your passport) will need to be:
Translated into Spanish;
Notarised by your nearest Mexican Consulate and;
Be 'Legalised' in the country where you live by the appropriate organisation or authorities. (In the UK the Foreign Office undertakes this task; link to the Legalisation page the on the Foreign Office's web site for details about obtaining this service).
Marriage Application Forms: These forms are attained from the local registry office in Mexico. You will need to specify whether you will get married under joint or separate property on this form.
Passport: Full Passport, valid for at least 6 months and a copy of same (both the bride and groom).
Travel Permits: Original copies of the tourist permit which was completed at the port of entry or other resident permit (visa, FM3, FM2, etc)
Birth Certificates: These will need to be certified and translated by an approved translator. Contact your nearest Mexican Consulate for more details.
Divorce Decree / Death Certificate: If either or both persons were previously married, then copies of Divorce Decree/ Death Certificate, if applicable (see Previously Married) will be required for presentation.~
Congratulations on your engagement! Here's what you need to know to make the marriage legal in the Federal District of Mexico City.
The following are the requirements for marriage in the Federal District (Mexico City). However, marriage requirements prevailing in the thirty-one states of Mexico are in general very similar to those of the Federal District.
Legal Requirements
Consent: People under the age of 18 may not get married in Mexico without parental consent. With parental consent, boys have to be at least 16 and girls need to be at least 14 years of age.
Foreigners Getting Married to Foreigners: You don't need to be resident in Mexico in order to get married there, you'll just need a passport and your tourist permit, plus some other paperwork (see below). If you plan to get married to a Mexican in Mexico, you will need additional documentation.
Chest X-rays and Blood Tests: hese must be done locally in Mexico, as the results of the blood tests and the X-ray documentation must be in Spanish and the tests need to be done within a certain time frame of the Marriage Application Form being completed. Not all states require the Chest X-rays. Check locally.
Four Witnesses: You will need to have 4 witnesses present at the legal ceremony, and they must have valid identification (Passport).
Validity Outside of Mexico: Your Marriage Certificate will be valid world-wide, BUT you should get your certificate 'legalised' in Mexico to ensure it is legally accepted when you get back home. The process is the reverse of getting your Native documentation legalised by the necessary authorities (e.g. Foreign Office) for marriage in Mexico (see below); The registry office in Mexico will tell you where this can be done locally.
Required Legal Documents
An American or other foreigner wishing to be married in Mexico must present to the appropriate Civil Registry certain documents described in the paragraphs below. All documents from the U.S., except for the valid U.S. passport, must be authenticated by an American authority (usually the Secretary of State), from the state where they originated, who attaches an ';Apostille'; to the documents listed below.
Important! ALL Foreign documents listed below (with the exception of your passport) will need to be:
Translated into Spanish;
Notarised by your nearest Mexican Consulate and;
Be 'Legalised' in the country where you live by the appropriate organisation or authorities. (In the UK the Foreign Office undertakes this task; link to the Legalisation page the on the Foreign Office's web site for details about obtaining this service).
Marriage Application Forms: These forms are attained from the local registry office in Mexico. You will need to specify whether you will get married under joint or separate property on this form.
Passport: Full Passport, valid for at least 6 months and a copy of same (both the bride and groom).
Travel Permits: Original copies of the tourist permit which was completed at the port of entry or other resident permit (visa, FM3, FM2, etc)
Birth Certificates: These will need to be certified and translated by an approved translator. Contact your nearest Mexican Consulate for more details.
Divorce Decree / Death Certificate: If either or both persons were previously married, then copies of Divorce Decree/ Death Certificate, if applicable (see Previously Married) will be required for presentation.~
Can my marriage be anulled if I get married before Same Sex Marriage is banned?
If I get married before Nov 4 (voting date) and Same Sex Marriage is banned in California, will my marriage be anulled/ terminated since it is not legal anymore?Can my marriage be anulled if I get married before Same Sex Marriage is banned?
It will be void or just not recognized as being legal. Anyway a marriage has to be treminated in divorce court, before you can apply for an anulment in the Catholic ChurchCan my marriage be anulled if I get married before Same Sex Marriage is banned?
See an attorney.
I certainly hope so.
It will be void or just not recognized as being legal. Anyway a marriage has to be treminated in divorce court, before you can apply for an anulment in the Catholic ChurchCan my marriage be anulled if I get married before Same Sex Marriage is banned?
See an attorney.
I certainly hope so.
What is the best Catholic church to get married in in the Sacramento, CA area?
links to pics would be appreciated!What is the best Catholic church to get married in in the Sacramento, CA area?
Siren's right, the best church would be the one to which you belong. This is because you are a member of the community there, the people who see you and support you in your faith. It's probably a significant part of your life (and if it's not, you may want to think about why that is and how it can be changed!).
There can be legitimate reasons to celebrate your wedding elsewhere, however. Although the beauty of the location is not one of them, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. Marrying outside of your home parish is permissible in Catholicism, but it's possible you'll need the permission of the pastor in your home parish, so ask to be sure. Sometimes the hosting parish will also want you to arrange for a priest to come if you aren't a parishioner yourself. Anyway, here are some possible locations:
Cathedral of the Blessed Sacrament
http://www.cathedralsacramento.org/pdfs/鈥?/a>
Saint Francis of Assisi
http://www.stfrancisparish.com/photo_gal鈥?/a>
Saint Stephen the First Martyr
http://sacfssp.com/parish.aspx
Saint Philomene
http://www.stphilomene.com/
http://www.stphilomene.com/info.htmlWhat is the best Catholic church to get married in in the Sacramento, CA area?
The one you belong to? If you don't belong to one, they won't allow you to marry there since the Catholic Church has very strict rules that they don't bend for anyone.
Siren's right, the best church would be the one to which you belong. This is because you are a member of the community there, the people who see you and support you in your faith. It's probably a significant part of your life (and if it's not, you may want to think about why that is and how it can be changed!).
There can be legitimate reasons to celebrate your wedding elsewhere, however. Although the beauty of the location is not one of them, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. Marrying outside of your home parish is permissible in Catholicism, but it's possible you'll need the permission of the pastor in your home parish, so ask to be sure. Sometimes the hosting parish will also want you to arrange for a priest to come if you aren't a parishioner yourself. Anyway, here are some possible locations:
Cathedral of the Blessed Sacrament
http://www.cathedralsacramento.org/pdfs/鈥?/a>
Saint Francis of Assisi
http://www.stfrancisparish.com/photo_gal鈥?/a>
Saint Stephen the First Martyr
http://sacfssp.com/parish.aspx
Saint Philomene
http://www.stphilomene.com/
http://www.stphilomene.com/info.htmlWhat is the best Catholic church to get married in in the Sacramento, CA area?
The one you belong to? If you don't belong to one, they won't allow you to marry there since the Catholic Church has very strict rules that they don't bend for anyone.
How long should one wait after they're married to have kids?
My friend is 22, husband 25 they were just married 4 months ago and both want kids so bad. They've been together for 6 years. They would definitely make great parents. They arent financially strained or anything, but she has 3 semesters of school left. Is it too soon for them to start a family?How long should one wait after they're married to have kids?
They should have kids when they are ready and both feel it. Sometimes, the time is never right. Sometimes, it comes fast, and sometimes it comes after years.
When the time is right, they will both know it. There is no better time than that.How long should one wait after they're married to have kids?
If they know they can handle it then yes everyone is different. She may be able to do the last 3 semesters with ease with children. If she has her husband on her side he can help take care of the kids while she finishes school.
Me I would personally wait until I finished school. I went to school while my children were young and studying wasn't the easiest. I did finish it took longer because I needed to take time off for the birth and then had to wait for the classes to become available again. They were only offered in the second semester.
nah..... they can start whenever they want 2~
at first they should wait till they know each other well then they can have a kid or maybe if day like they can have twin!
She REALLY should finish school. Having a baby while in school is tough. Most people just end up dropping out.
Kids are great. They are fun. They make family whole to some people. However, your life is never the same after you have one.
I always suggest to couples to wait at least 1-2 years before trying to have kids. Why? Marriage is tough, and it would be stronger and smarter in a relationship to strengthen the bond between husband and wife before throwing kids in there. Let them find out who they are now in the married life.
A year
My wife and I were married for three months before she got pregnant. It was a planned pregnancy too. We couldn't wait to have kids. She had her tubes tied last time, because once we started we couldn't stop, ha ha. It's a personal decision. It's entirely up to them. Why shouldn't have have kids yet?
I don麓t think the married part actually matters. If both parents are mature enough, have tolerance and a bit of wisdom then they should go for it.
Personally I think 25 is a good age to start. That way you have done many things together, gained experience maybe built up some finances etc.
I believe children choose thier parents before they are born, so they can learn from a certain aspect of something.
I would personally wait until my education was completed if I was almost done. Then I would probably want to become seasoned into a position I loved so that maternity leave wouldn't be an issue. However, if they are married have been together the length of time that they have and are financially stable then hey why not?
I got pregnant right away - and I was't financialy stable either! and I was 22 when I had my first!
I can tell you - If you want it - it's a blessing!
It made our marriage stronger right from the start!
we helped eachother! and we went along with it!
If they want - they can time it for a vacation from school-
but realize recovery is the hardest part! so go for earlier in the vacation!
Good Luck!
From what we know about sociology, there is no clear cut answer as to when becoming married, or even if marriage before children increases chances of success. Based on what you've said, in the 20's, enough money, college education, it is probably not a bad time to have children. Having children reqiures a lot of time, so it may be a better idea to wait until after college if the degree is important.
The best policy is to examine each dimension of the desire to have children (Money, time, commitment), and decide for themselves. If they want children _that_ bad, then I can only hope for the best for them
IF SHE STILL HAS SCHOOL, I'D WAIT AT LEAST A YEAR OR UNTIL SHE'S DONE WITH SCHOOL. SHE'LL BE GLAD THAT SHE FINISHED SCHOOL WITHOUT ALSO HAVING THE BABY TO TAKE CARE OF AND GET SITTERS FOR. THAT WAY SHE CAN ENJOY BEING A MOTHER.
Well, let me tell you, I was pregnant with my first right away, and the strain between us having a child nine months after marriage almost ruined the marriage, weird as that sounds. From experience I would suggest they wait at least a year and get comfortable with each other completely giving the marriage a time to strengthen before adding to the family. Because the strain of adjustment is hard on a marriage.
It is a very personal decision. There is never going to be a perfect time. But, I think it would be less stressful to them if they waited until she finishes school just in case she gets really sick with the baby. Besides, it's nice to have a little time to adjust to married life before you through pregnancy into the mix. But, frankly it is never too soon if they feel like that is what they want to do.
I think it's a decision they have to make themselves. My personal opinion that I developed from my own experience and that I shared with my sister that just got married, is give yourself at least 6 months if not a year to get adjusted to being married.
Even if you've been together for a time before being married, for some reason it's just stressful in the beginning of the marriage. I dated my husband for 5 years before we were married and the first 6 months were an adjustment period for us. We're fine, but pregnancy and a new baby bring on a whole new set of things. We had a few ';stressful'; moments after our son was born, but we remembered the adjustment to getting married and knew things would be fine (which they are).
But if they feel they are ready to begin a family sooner, it's really their decision. Just wish them luck and pray that everything works out for them. If school's the issue, just remember pregnancy is 9 months long, and it might even take a while to get pregnant. If she does, she may be done (or almost done) before the baby comes.
yes
My husband and I waited 2 years to get preggo. It was nice being a married couple with no kids. We could pack up and go and do anything we wanted. But its a personal decision. They have already been together 6 years....
I would suggest waiting at least a year, but thats just me.
At least a year or more!
They should do it whenever they feel ready. If they want a child now, than go for it.
There's no rule of thumb on this. Here's the reality of it...parents are NEVER ready to have kids. Oh, they might think they are, but belive me, it's never like you thought it was going to be.
Now I have a question - This is your friend? So what business is it of yours?
She should finish school and just chill for a while and enjoy just the two together. So she should give it about 3 or 4 years.
That is a question that the couple must answer for themselves. My wife and I were 21 and 22 respectively when we got married and we fully intended to be parents to a full family. We did nothing to stop the reproductive process but it took over four years before my wife was able to conceive. We now have six grown children. Thus, from my experience, I would say that your friends are more than ready to beging their family. It is definitely not too soon to start. By the time her first child is born, she will be six months past the end of her schooling so not to worry.
Give them my best wishes.
If the husband is willing to do his fair share of the parenting then sure, it isn't too soon to have kids. But if the man isn't willing to help her and her studies start to suffer, then it would be a problem.
If they want kids then they should have them... u will never be ready to have them.... u just gotta have them... and I'm in the same boat I'm 22 and my husband is 25 and we are trying to have kids...
You don't need to wait at all...She should finish her school first...but there is no set rule as to how long you have to wait after you are married. Some don't even wait to get married.
They could begin a family now. If she only has 3 semesters left then the baby wouldnt even be that much of a strain on her by the time she graduated. She could wait until after the baby is born to seach for a job. Its the perfect time.
well i guess i didnt do it the right way i mean i was 6 months preg when i got married and didnt go to college like i planned. So i think she should finish her three semesters of college or she may not go back after she has the baby. It just depends if she has alot of family help. She will need lots of babysitters while she finishes school. There is always plenty of time to have a baby. she may regret having one too soon.
they have been togther 6 years, and want kids badly, go for it i say!
my wife had only been togther with me for 3 or so years, we where only married 6/7 months before our first was born
but it turned out great, we are still togther 13 years later and now have 4 kids
they sound perfect! good luck to them, i was 21 and my wife 20 when we had the first one
maybe wait till theirs just 2 semesters left
Finish School First.
Wait a 3 years
Be Newlyweds and then have kiddos, Marriage is tough, it shouldn't be complicated with Children and pregnancy.
Its up to them!! Sometimes things (pregnancy) can happen unplanned. No matter how much they prepare nothing EVER fully prepares you for parenthood. My two year old is still teaching me new things everyday!!
finish the studies then have a familylips
They should have kids when they are ready and both feel it. Sometimes, the time is never right. Sometimes, it comes fast, and sometimes it comes after years.
When the time is right, they will both know it. There is no better time than that.How long should one wait after they're married to have kids?
If they know they can handle it then yes everyone is different. She may be able to do the last 3 semesters with ease with children. If she has her husband on her side he can help take care of the kids while she finishes school.
Me I would personally wait until I finished school. I went to school while my children were young and studying wasn't the easiest. I did finish it took longer because I needed to take time off for the birth and then had to wait for the classes to become available again. They were only offered in the second semester.
nah..... they can start whenever they want 2~
at first they should wait till they know each other well then they can have a kid or maybe if day like they can have twin!
She REALLY should finish school. Having a baby while in school is tough. Most people just end up dropping out.
Kids are great. They are fun. They make family whole to some people. However, your life is never the same after you have one.
I always suggest to couples to wait at least 1-2 years before trying to have kids. Why? Marriage is tough, and it would be stronger and smarter in a relationship to strengthen the bond between husband and wife before throwing kids in there. Let them find out who they are now in the married life.
A year
My wife and I were married for three months before she got pregnant. It was a planned pregnancy too. We couldn't wait to have kids. She had her tubes tied last time, because once we started we couldn't stop, ha ha. It's a personal decision. It's entirely up to them. Why shouldn't have have kids yet?
I don麓t think the married part actually matters. If both parents are mature enough, have tolerance and a bit of wisdom then they should go for it.
Personally I think 25 is a good age to start. That way you have done many things together, gained experience maybe built up some finances etc.
I believe children choose thier parents before they are born, so they can learn from a certain aspect of something.
I would personally wait until my education was completed if I was almost done. Then I would probably want to become seasoned into a position I loved so that maternity leave wouldn't be an issue. However, if they are married have been together the length of time that they have and are financially stable then hey why not?
I got pregnant right away - and I was't financialy stable either! and I was 22 when I had my first!
I can tell you - If you want it - it's a blessing!
It made our marriage stronger right from the start!
we helped eachother! and we went along with it!
If they want - they can time it for a vacation from school-
but realize recovery is the hardest part! so go for earlier in the vacation!
Good Luck!
From what we know about sociology, there is no clear cut answer as to when becoming married, or even if marriage before children increases chances of success. Based on what you've said, in the 20's, enough money, college education, it is probably not a bad time to have children. Having children reqiures a lot of time, so it may be a better idea to wait until after college if the degree is important.
The best policy is to examine each dimension of the desire to have children (Money, time, commitment), and decide for themselves. If they want children _that_ bad, then I can only hope for the best for them
IF SHE STILL HAS SCHOOL, I'D WAIT AT LEAST A YEAR OR UNTIL SHE'S DONE WITH SCHOOL. SHE'LL BE GLAD THAT SHE FINISHED SCHOOL WITHOUT ALSO HAVING THE BABY TO TAKE CARE OF AND GET SITTERS FOR. THAT WAY SHE CAN ENJOY BEING A MOTHER.
Well, let me tell you, I was pregnant with my first right away, and the strain between us having a child nine months after marriage almost ruined the marriage, weird as that sounds. From experience I would suggest they wait at least a year and get comfortable with each other completely giving the marriage a time to strengthen before adding to the family. Because the strain of adjustment is hard on a marriage.
It is a very personal decision. There is never going to be a perfect time. But, I think it would be less stressful to them if they waited until she finishes school just in case she gets really sick with the baby. Besides, it's nice to have a little time to adjust to married life before you through pregnancy into the mix. But, frankly it is never too soon if they feel like that is what they want to do.
I think it's a decision they have to make themselves. My personal opinion that I developed from my own experience and that I shared with my sister that just got married, is give yourself at least 6 months if not a year to get adjusted to being married.
Even if you've been together for a time before being married, for some reason it's just stressful in the beginning of the marriage. I dated my husband for 5 years before we were married and the first 6 months were an adjustment period for us. We're fine, but pregnancy and a new baby bring on a whole new set of things. We had a few ';stressful'; moments after our son was born, but we remembered the adjustment to getting married and knew things would be fine (which they are).
But if they feel they are ready to begin a family sooner, it's really their decision. Just wish them luck and pray that everything works out for them. If school's the issue, just remember pregnancy is 9 months long, and it might even take a while to get pregnant. If she does, she may be done (or almost done) before the baby comes.
yes
My husband and I waited 2 years to get preggo. It was nice being a married couple with no kids. We could pack up and go and do anything we wanted. But its a personal decision. They have already been together 6 years....
I would suggest waiting at least a year, but thats just me.
At least a year or more!
They should do it whenever they feel ready. If they want a child now, than go for it.
There's no rule of thumb on this. Here's the reality of it...parents are NEVER ready to have kids. Oh, they might think they are, but belive me, it's never like you thought it was going to be.
Now I have a question - This is your friend? So what business is it of yours?
She should finish school and just chill for a while and enjoy just the two together. So she should give it about 3 or 4 years.
That is a question that the couple must answer for themselves. My wife and I were 21 and 22 respectively when we got married and we fully intended to be parents to a full family. We did nothing to stop the reproductive process but it took over four years before my wife was able to conceive. We now have six grown children. Thus, from my experience, I would say that your friends are more than ready to beging their family. It is definitely not too soon to start. By the time her first child is born, she will be six months past the end of her schooling so not to worry.
Give them my best wishes.
If the husband is willing to do his fair share of the parenting then sure, it isn't too soon to have kids. But if the man isn't willing to help her and her studies start to suffer, then it would be a problem.
If they want kids then they should have them... u will never be ready to have them.... u just gotta have them... and I'm in the same boat I'm 22 and my husband is 25 and we are trying to have kids...
You don't need to wait at all...She should finish her school first...but there is no set rule as to how long you have to wait after you are married. Some don't even wait to get married.
They could begin a family now. If she only has 3 semesters left then the baby wouldnt even be that much of a strain on her by the time she graduated. She could wait until after the baby is born to seach for a job. Its the perfect time.
well i guess i didnt do it the right way i mean i was 6 months preg when i got married and didnt go to college like i planned. So i think she should finish her three semesters of college or she may not go back after she has the baby. It just depends if she has alot of family help. She will need lots of babysitters while she finishes school. There is always plenty of time to have a baby. she may regret having one too soon.
they have been togther 6 years, and want kids badly, go for it i say!
my wife had only been togther with me for 3 or so years, we where only married 6/7 months before our first was born
but it turned out great, we are still togther 13 years later and now have 4 kids
they sound perfect! good luck to them, i was 21 and my wife 20 when we had the first one
maybe wait till theirs just 2 semesters left
Finish School First.
Wait a 3 years
Be Newlyweds and then have kiddos, Marriage is tough, it shouldn't be complicated with Children and pregnancy.
Its up to them!! Sometimes things (pregnancy) can happen unplanned. No matter how much they prepare nothing EVER fully prepares you for parenthood. My two year old is still teaching me new things everyday!!
finish the studies then have a family
Is 38 years old too late to be married the first time?
I rarely get a boyfriend. For 3 years i've been single. I've never been engaged or married - ever.I am beginning to think i would never get married. It is so hard to find the right guy.
Am i too late to get married?Is 38 years old too late to be married the first time?
You can still find love.Is 38 years old too late to be married the first time?
I'm going to concur with previous answerers. However, you'd better have some good answers for any potential husband regarding the reason why.
They are going to think that there's something wrong with you, like you're on drugs or an alcoholic or have a mental disorder. That's how men think and some women also.
Nope, I know someone who is getting married for the first time, she is 41, fiance is 54.
Never too late to find love. :)
Never too late. Remember, there is someone for everyone :-)
No, my brother married for the first time at 39 and at 45 is awaiting his 3rd child.
No, not at all. You sowed your wild oats, and I think marriages later in life last longer.
No, it's never too late.
its never too late to love and commit.
it is too late. You should just sleep around.
Not at all!
it's never too late.
good luck to you.
no it's never too late to find love.
38 isn't old..
don't give up
Am i too late to get married?Is 38 years old too late to be married the first time?
You can still find love.Is 38 years old too late to be married the first time?
I'm going to concur with previous answerers. However, you'd better have some good answers for any potential husband regarding the reason why.
They are going to think that there's something wrong with you, like you're on drugs or an alcoholic or have a mental disorder. That's how men think and some women also.
Nope, I know someone who is getting married for the first time, she is 41, fiance is 54.
Never too late to find love. :)
Never too late. Remember, there is someone for everyone :-)
No, my brother married for the first time at 39 and at 45 is awaiting his 3rd child.
No, not at all. You sowed your wild oats, and I think marriages later in life last longer.
No, it's never too late.
its never too late to love and commit.
it is too late. You should just sleep around.
Not at all!
it's never too late.
good luck to you.
no it's never too late to find love.
38 isn't old..
don't give up
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